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That may sound a little existential, but according toDr.
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Are you moving in to save money on rent?
(If so, hopefully that’s not theonlyreason.)
double-check neither of you are accidentally misleading the other about why you want to take this leap.
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“It’s a good idea to start by defining expenses that are joint and those that are not.
Budgeting can be complicated by factors like disparity in incomes.
“Talking upfront is key to the couple’s future harmony,” says Friedman.
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You need plan of action for having calm financial conversations.
“Regardless of what you decide, its important to have a plan in place ahead of time.”
If you decide that your S.O.
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It’s important to think about this ahead of time, before major assets like houses come into play.
Bobby tells Jan that his down payment was equal to one year’s worth of mortgage payments.
Eleven months later, Jan and Bobby break up.
Bobby says he never agreed to the scheme.
In his mind, Jen was paying rent while he covered other expenses.
Don’t be Bobby and Jan!
Even if you never break up, these decisions will impact your everyday life on the regular.
Think about all these questions quietly on your own to confirm your values align with your partner’s.
Is this relationship going where you want it to?
Do you have any strong gut feelings about this move?
It probably just means you should probably talk things out a bit more before making the big move.
