Ten years ago I chose to undergo tubal ligationor having my tubes tiedas my form of birth control.
Seven years and half a dozen OBGYNs later, one finally agreed.
Yes, this is an unconventional and permanent choice, but it was the right one for me.
Daring Wanderer / Stocksy
And, indeed, the conversation happens more than you’d think.
I guess in a way, if you consider the fear of getting pregnant a mental health issue.
An anxiety around spermisnt so good for the sex life.
Also: hey don’t be sorry.
No, and that was kind of the point for me.
Reversal of a tubal ligation is extremely difficult and extremely unlikely to work.
Thanks for questioning my ability to know whats best for meand my understanding of the consequences of my choices.
Also, have you ever asked a pregnant woman that?
Heres the thing: Giving birth is not the only way to be a mother.
I have stepchildren and I hope to be a foster parent one day.
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Wow, wed have bigger problems if we didnt agree on this issue, no?
Theconversationabout having kids has always been a deal-breaker for me.
Ive had boyfriends who said Id change my mind, so those relationships didnt last.
My husband already had kids and we agreed we didnt need to make our own.
It is a surgery, but its outpatient and fairly routine at this point.
Mine was alaparoscopic procedure.
He used gas to inflate my abdomen so he could see better and then snipped my fallopian tubes.
Ive had more than one friend get pregnant onthe Pill, so I just didnt trust it.
(Eight in 100 women getpregnant on oral contraceptionI dont like those odds.)
Ive had friends whove experienced painful expulsions ofIUDsa common issue if you havent been pregnant.
Trust me, I did the research on othermethods of birth controlbefore deciding on this one.
Yes, in the sense that I cant become pregnant.
But my body still produces eggs and I ovulate every month.
The eggs dont get anywhere near my uterus.
Instead they sit in the fallopian tubes for a while and eventually get absorbed.
Nothing has changed about my hormones.
I still get monthly periods.
I wontenter menopause any earlieror later than I would have before the surgery.
Men get touchy about cutting objects near their junk, I guess.
I got major sympathy points, so it was really a win-win.
Hit a matinee of Frozen and ask me that again.
Ok, let me indulge this for a minute.
It would be expensive and there would be no guarantee I could conceive this way.
So when you question my commitment to my decision,let it go.
