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Working full-time (or more), but also being fully present for your kids.
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If youre amom raising children of color, keeping your kids safe in a racist world.
Oh, and dont forget toprioritize self-carein the zero hours you have left in the day!
Dr. Getch also attributes mom guilt to deeper-rooted cultural issues.
Society has dictated gendered roles and taught us what it means to be a good mom, she says.
(You may have even rolled your eyes as you clicked on this article.)
We hope their words of wisdom feel like aMothers Day gift.
Understanding that my way is not the only way to get things done was a game changer.
Cynthia Simpson, talent director and mother of a 4-year-old
I keep a folder of my wins.
Mom guilt shows up for me in so many different ways.
Im in a same-gender, loving relationship, and my partner and I are expecting.
It makes me feel so guilty, and I ask myself, Will they like me?
I declined invitations to hang out with people.
Iwasnt going to the gymas frequently.
If there was a work event after hours, I felt bad about saying yes.
So I really isolated myself.
It’s not saying, I matter above my family.
Its just saying, I matter too.
Guilt is often rooted in deeper insecurities, and we need to identify and process those.
When I was a new mom, I was having issues with breastfeeding.
It was incredibly painful, and I was barely able to function.
You have togive yourself grace.
When Im working, it gets my full attention.
When Im with my kids, they get my full attention.
When Im one-on-one with my husband, he gets my full attention.
Ive felt it while speeding from work to after-school pickup, hoping my children arent the last ones waiting.
There are times Ive felt it aftersnapping at my kidswhile trying to clean the house.
Or when I gave them EasyMac for dinner because I didnt have time to prepare anything beforehand.
They just want me as I am, completely flawed but loving and committed.
Mom guilt manifested for me when I returned to full-time work earlier this year.
I rarely feel as if I have enough time for my two littles.
He was crying while the other kids were playing, and our nanny called me to tell me this.
I just remember sitting in the office and starting to cry.
I was like, Am I not paying enough attention to my kid?
Am I not doing what I need to do as a mom?
In terms of juggling so many things at once, I’m not sure anyone has the perfect solution.
They are now delightful young adultskind, funny, warm, and empathic.
