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The best self-help books dont promise to completely change your life overnight.

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Perhaps after reading a few chapters, youll learn how, exactly, to startshowing yourself more kindness.

Or, youll finally have an aha moment about why youre drawn to themost toxic partners.

market is saturated with self-proclaimed gurus spewing empty promises and recycled advice.

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Instead,Atomic Habitsfocuses on the power of small (atom-like), consistent changes.

(you could download the first chapter for freehere.)

It combines Foos personal mental health journey with expert interviews to unpack the complex realities ofprocessing trauma.

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That is, until I boughtHow to Talk to Anyone.

Its a simple concept to grasp, but a difficult one to put into practice.

years, which makes their insight all the more credible.

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Theres no overblown social media is ruining society!

(For what its worth,Barack Obamaalso named this book as one of his favorites.)

Maybe its a fearless activist who fights for what they believe in, no matter what.

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Or a coworker who firmly defends theirwork-life boundaries.

So if youre curious about the hype, you might just have to read it for yourself.

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