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But the signs of trouble were referring to go beyond those little things that irk you.
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Their dating profile doesnt match who they really are.
They describe all of their exes as crazy.
Their jealousy leads to controlling or possessive behaviors.
Jealousyin and of itself isnt necessarily a huge red flag.
However, how your partner manages those feelings matters.
), that goes beyond mere concern.
Its signaling a dangerous, possibly even abusive relationship, Dr. Senarighi says.
They put you down, even in a teasing way.
It was only a joke are not magical words that erase hurtful insults.
In that case, this red flag can escalate to adealbreakeror nonnegotiable, Adekunle says.
They rush a new relationship forward way too quickly.
Theyre rude to people in the service industry.
If not, order your martini to go.
Theres no way to say how much is too much conflict, she says.
They dont truly listen to you.
If that leads to improvement, great!
If not, remember that someone who isnt willing to grow isnt worth your time.
They dont make an effort to help you feel better when youre going through a difficult time.
Their gestures dont have to be extravagant or expensive.
They rely on you as their sole support for serious mental health struggles or past traumas.
Its more about aspects like: Are they self-aware about how these issues affect themselves and others?
Are they receivingsomekind of support or otherwise trying to heal?
Remember that youre not solely responsible for nurturing their well-being.
They push your physical boundaries, even in innocent ways.
Does your partner refuse to stop tickling you when you tell them to knock it off?
Yep, those are major red flags right there.
We want people to be able to hear no and stop and take us seriously.
Your friends and family members dont want to spend time with them.
They gaslight you or constantly have you questioning yourself.
Not only is it a form ofemotional abuse,but its also very difficult to identify.
They respond poorly when you spend time away from them.
Taking space for yourselfis healthy, as is paying attention to how your partner responds when you do.
Additional reporting by Claire Hannum
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