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This past April, I took the long-distance out of my long-distancerelationship.
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Still, we were finally in the same city!
BYE, five-hour bus rides filled with obnoxious passengers and shoddy Wi-Fi!
Here, 16 questions you should ask if you’re about to go through the same thing.
(Minus the fire part.
That wasn’t fun.)
Visiting each other during a long-distance relationship usually means soaking up every single second of togetherness.
Being in each other’s presence is a precious gift, and you treat it as such.
But when you live in the same city, at some point you’ll both need alone time.
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Washington D.C. is…not New York.
Compromising for love is necessary sometimes, which means sacrifice goes right along with it.
Discussing the future beyond this big move can help check that your goals are aligned.
As a bonus, it makes my relationship better.
Do you both see this move as having the same weight?
Getting open and honest about this major milestone will only boost your relationship.
Why not, since you have to go without when you’re apart?
You’re a human, not a saint.
Holding a grudge isn’t inevitable if you break up after moving for someone!
“You want to keep this in mind to avoid becoming turned off,” says Greer.
Or does one of you feel much more strongly about it than the other?
High five if you’ve already landed a job before making the move!
But also no worries if you haven’t yet.
It can be difficult for yourresumeto get a lot of bites when you’re in another city.
What’s most important is knowing the status of your new location’s job market.
“You do not want to wind up either financially or emotionally dependent on the other person.
So, ask yourself: Do you have realistic options?
Are there upcoming professional events where you’ve got the option to make connections?
Which companies would be a fit for you, and do they have any openings?
