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The thing about the clitoris is, it has no function beyond sexual pleasure.
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Yep, the entire organincluding both the ultra-sensitive button at the top of the labia (a.k.a.
(Sad, we know.)
(Bisexual and lesbian women are slightly ahead at 66% and 86%, respectively.)
Narrowing that chasm means reprioritizing your clit in bed.
Below, youll find different techniques to help you level up from your basic nub-rub.
Meaning, theres no single pop in of stimulation that will feel best across the board.
All the experts SELF spoke with suggest starting slow and gentle.
After all, a2023 studyfound that the clitoris isverysensitive because it has around 10,200 (!!)
(For reference, yourentirepalm has about 17,000.)
So you dont want to do too much too quickly.
It takes time for the clitoris to become engorged, just like a penis becomes erect, she says.
How to stimulate the clitoris during masturbation or with a partner
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Instead, Tanner suggests layering the natural folds of your labia over the nub to massage it indirectly.
This way, youre reducing any friction that might otherwise cause your clit to feel overstimulated.
And similar to layering, youre avoiding sustained direct [touch] that can overstimulate, she says.
Here are some potential stimulation techniques to discuss:
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Kiss gently…and then harder.Remember that note about starting slow?
From there, build things up by essentially making out with their nub, Dr. Nolan says.
Explore using different parts of your tongue.Not all licking is created equally.
(Just keep teeth out of the picture…unless they specifically ask for that.)
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Apply a wand vibrator to the nub.The direct stimulation of awand vibratoron your clit can feel amazing.
(Remember layering?)
This way, youre diffusing the pressure a bit.
So youre getting indirect pressure on that highly innervated area, she says.
(Using a littlelubecan go a long way here.)
