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Or maybe you just want to surprise your partner (or yourself).
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Ideally, I recommend using only new, clean items."
(And save money too.)
If theyre clearly enjoying themselves, move down their body.
Focus on the inner thighs and hip bones.
And if theyre intothatsensation, engage their penis or vulva last.
(Before you ask, theyre molded likecoffee beans, we promise.)
For more traditional shapes, try these freezer trays fromAmazon.
Work your way up to more intense strokes, Engle adds.
As beginners, it can take some time to get your bearings.
Remember, always ask your partner if something feels good or is too rough.
Madewell Bandana
Madewell
You dont have to invest in a full-onBDSM kitto incorporate some lightbondageinto your play.
Another way to use a bandana?
This homemade sex toy has the added bonus of freshening your breath too.
Just be sure to cover them with something you’re able to launder.
That means yes to the hairbrush, but no to the cucumber.
Experts also recommend using a water-basedlube.
Viva Naturals Organic Coconut Oil (16 oz.)
Williams Sonoma Silicone Spatula
Williams Sonoma Silicone Spatula with Stainless-Steel Handle
Another fantastic spanker?
confirm you choose a well-made spatula, Queen says.
While spanking and wrist-tying is fun, start with the blindfold alone, she says.
Once its secured over your eyes, have your partner kiss you and massage you with essential oils.
Then, the sexy stuff can really get underway.
Gaiam Yoga Bolster Rectangular Meditation Pillow
Yogaandmeditationlovers, put thatbolsterto uses other than back stretching.
Blissy Bronze Sleep Mask
Blissy
One more blindfold option is asleep mask.
The stuffing and pressure should create an enjoyable sensation.
Either way, ONeill recommends wearing a condom in case you want to use the toy again.
And if youre short on sex toys, well, read this article again.
