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When it comes to sexual pleasure, there are plenty ofsex toy productsout there to help you succeed.
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Why use sex toys with a partner?
But sex toys arent just for single folks, Lisa Finn, a sex educator atBabeland, tells SELF.
Humans dont vibrate; humans dont have penises made of stainless steel.
But that also doesnt mean that toys are a replacement for, or a threat to, human relationships.
What should couples look for when shopping for sex toys?
Ignore all the marketing, Epiphora warns.
Some toys are specifically labeled for couples, butanytoy can be for couples.
Toys like these are good because your partner is still involved in the sexual experience.
), Finn recommends a stimulator like the Melt.
Plus, it can be controlled via the app remotely.
It can also be combined with other toys.
The possibilities are endless.
Chen favors theJeJoue Mimi Soft, a squishier version of the same toy.
About the size of a butter packet, it easily fits between two bodies.
We love a vibe that doesnt get in the way of pleasure, but adds to it!
Created for people with dexterity challenges, its effortless to grip and has just one easy-to-read button.
Slip this over your fingers and start to explore your partners body.
The joy of this wand is that it has three hours of battery life, she says.
The rechargeable Flip is smaller than many wand massagers and has six vibration modes and four vibration patterns.
Want to explore G-spot or P-spot (prostate) stimulation?
Angle the shaft so the bulbous tip can hit the spot.
Want to show the almighty clitoris some affection?
Keep the toy flat and slip it between your legs.
Its versatility is what makes it an especially great option for a first couples vibrator, she says.
Finns number-one harness recommendation is the Joquefor a number of reasons.
But it has two (two!)
holes instead of just one.
It also allows those with erectile dysfunction to penetrate their partnershands-free.
Harnesses: Tantus Intermediate Strap-On Harness Kit
Tantus Intermediate Strap-On Harness Kit
Tantus Inc. Finn recommends the Le Wand Bullet Vibrator.
Nowadays you really dont need to spend a lot of money to get a solid vibrator, Sloane says.
And thats where the Unbound Zip comes in.
Its stainless steel exterior warms to your body temperature and feels ultra-smooth against your skin.
Its also quite quiet, making it ideal for surreptitious public play.
She especially likes the Pivot because it features a wide range of deep, rumbly vibrations.
The Lelo Tor 2 may be a better vibrator couples ring option.
Shaped like a taco shell, the Pulse Duo wraps around a penis to deliver stimulation.
It can be used to deliver a hand-free finish or as a masturbation sleeve.
Anybody can use a strap-on, Corrado adds.
Its not something thats exclusive to lesbians or bisexual women.
Oh, and this option vibrates.
The USB-rechargeable Adorime in particular has seven different vibration modes, which are adjustable via remote control.
And its waterproof design makes it usable in the shower.
The speed at which the b-Vibe plug rotates can be controlled via a remote.
Give the remote to your partner and let them pick the setting, she suggests.
Just dont forget: The anus isnt self-lubricating, so youll also need ananal lube.
Carly S. recommendsSliquid SassyorSliquid Satinanal lubes.
Anal beads are designed to be inserted and removed to increase the stimulation to nerves around the anal sphincter.
Enter Cinco, a luxe string of silicone anal beads that vibrate, making that sensation much more intense.
(Remember: Silicone-basedlubesdegrade silicone toys, so youll want a water-based lube while using these.)
Use it as a fun form of foreplay, or wear it during vaginal ororal sexfor added pleasure.
It has 10 vibration controls and it’s waterproof, too.
When you take away one sense, all other senses get heightened, she says.
Do you actually need to invest in a special blindfold?
A tube sock, tie, or sleep mask will do the trick.
But some people enjoy having an item specifically designated to sexy play, she says.
She suggests using asex pillowduring missionary with an external vibrator.
During your next romp with your partner, try using massage as a form of foreplay.
This sensual massage oil candle is great forsensation play, and it comes in a variety of scents.
It might just save you from a load of postcoital laundry, which nobody wants to do.
