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So whatcanyou do then?
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And then, align on the best way to handle it.
But assuming you and your SO have had that talk, whats next?
The one who ignores your boundaries.
Or your partners parents are always showing up unannounced when youd prefer a heads-up.
After all, they have a much longer relationship than you do.
Another option is approaching the issue together as a united front.
While speaking up, both therapists suggest focusing on the behavior, not their character.
The one who thinks they know whats best for you.
You shouldve bought a house by now!
Are you sure you want to sleep-train your baby?
The less they know, the less they can weigh in.
Ideally, anyone who truly wants the best for you will honor your wishes.
And if their input continues to be dismissive or disrespectful?
Well, that brings us to our next section.
The one who constantly disrespects you.
Its one thing for an in-law to have opinionsits another when they start resembling outright disrespect.
After you justhad a baby, your mother-in-law keeps insulting your body.
Some in-laws may be more subtle with theirput-downs.
This is also something worth bringing up to your partner.
But instead of going straight into I cant stand your mom!
The one who undermines your partner.
For instance, maybe their mother guilt-trips them any time they have a go at make an independent decision.
Or their dad constantly belittles them under the guise of constructive criticism.
Or, That seemed a bit harsh.
So these questions can gently encourage them to process their experiences over timewithout feeling pressured to adopt your perspective.
The one who competes with you for your partners attention.
Eventually, this can make your relationship feel like an exhausting contest for your spouses attention and approval.
At the same time, you should never ignore passive-aggressive or rude behavior, Tawwab says.
(Luckily, weve got a whole article on thathere.)
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