Watch theScott Pilgrimtrailer, and read on!

What should I do?

If your thoughts are sentimental (e.g., recalling your great first date), they’re probably harmless.

Instead, talk to your mate aboutwhatever you feel is lacking in your relationship.

If you’re reminiscing about how spontaneous your ex was, try doing morespur-of-the-momentthings with your husband.

Once you open up and start talking, your wandering thoughts will likely fade.

“I broke up with my boyfriend, and I worry about running into him.

“Everyone dreads this kind of encounter.

I remember avoiding an old flame’s favorite spots for months after splitting up.

To stay cool in case of a chance meeting, defuse the tension by acknowledging the awkwardness.

(“Wow, this is weird!")

Keep the conversation brief; there’s no need to get into a soul-searching discussion on a street corner.

Comfort yourself by calling a friend to vent.

Then pat yourself on the back for surviving.

“I made a huge mistake by cheating on my boyfriend.

I swore to him I’d never do it again and he has given me a second chance.

How can I regain his trust?”

Did you feelunhappy, dissatisfied or neglected?

You also have to accept that your partner is most likely feelingangry and hurt, which is natural.

“When my boyfriend and I fight, we end up blowing up at each other.

How can we argue more productively?”

I get more concerned when patients say they never fight.

Arguing indicates that partners are secure enough to reveal their feelings, even if they differ.

Try these tips tohandle future clashes more constructively:

Don’t go for the jugular.

Nothing good comes from name calling or hitting below the belt.

Listen with both ears.

Allow each other to talk, without being defensive, interrupting or checking your BlackBerry.

Listening respectfully is a big part of fighting fairly.

Press PAUSE to cool down.

If things turn nasty or you’re so angry that you might’t think straight, take a breather.

Say, “Let’s try discussing this when we’re calmer.”

I’m tired of sneaking around.

In a way, your predicament shows what astrong support internet you have.

But it’s best to tell them you’re dating before they find out on their own.

If your pals challenge your decision, explain to themhow the relationship has (presumably) improved.

See how Michael Cera handles his onscreen girlfriend’s exes inScott Pilgrim vs.

The World, in theatres Friday!

How do you deal with your ex?