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For some people, its even possible to reach the back of theclitoristhrough the adjoining anal wall.
(Yup, your clitoris isnt just that external nub above your vaginait has internal components, too.
This doesnt mean you should dive right into butt play without the proper prep.
Plus, it could really hurt.
1. see to it you actually want to try butt play.
Sometimes it might feel like everyone is obsessed with butt stuff.
But none of that matters ifyouarent remotely drawn to the idea.
Anal play should be something youre curious about or excited by if youre going to try it.
So, explore your reasons for wanting to explore your butt.
Have an open conversation with your partner ahead of time.
But I really recommend sitting down with your partner beforehand and talking about anal play.
Be open and honest about wanting to try something a little new.
Anal play can feel great, so theres nothing wrong or weird about wanting to give it a spin.
It might help to know your stuff before you have this conversation.
Read a fewarticles on butt play.
Ask a few experienced friends for tips.
Consider coming to your partner with ideas, too.
Perhaps there is abutt plugyoud like to try.
(Im a big fan of theb-Vibe Novice PlugandDoc Johnsons various anal sex trainer kits).
Or maybe theres ahot clip of anal sexyou want to share with them.
Dont stress about the poop thing too much.
Anal newbies regularly ask me if they need to do an enema before any butt play.
I promise you this isnt necessary.
Instead, Id suggest a less intensive route.
This is a fact of life.
Start with fingers and toys.
Do not, and I repeat, donotjump into anal penetration with something large like apenisor dildo.
Your butt is not up for that challenge.
Breathe into the new sensation, which can feel a bit strange to start.
Listen to your body, and only move on to bigger objects when youre ready.
Also, keep in mind that being penetrated doesnt mean you cant set the pace.
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5.
Use lots (and lots) of lube.
For anal sex, lube is an absolute must-have.
Your anus does a lot of great things, but that does not include lubricating itself.
I recommend using either a silicone- or oil-based lube for anal play.
They have great staying power.
My favorites areBoy Butter,The Butters, andUberlube.
Oil corrodes latex, which can make the condom break.
Dont push your limits.
Theres a difference between something feeling new and different and something actively hurting or not being right for you.
(Or call it quits yourself if youremasturbating.)
Maybe you need more lube or to go more slowly, or maybe anal isnt for you.
No matter what, respecting your own limits is key.
Its perfectly fine to take a breather or bring your entire anal journey to an end!
After youre finished with anal play, its time to clean up.
You should also thoroughly clean any sex toys you used.
Finally, we cant talk about post-sex cleanup without mentioning stains.
Luckily, SELF hasa whole guide for getting rid of sex stains, poop or otherwise.
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