Im not going to lie, buying a vibrator is a daunting experience.
I remember my first sex shop experience.
Arent customersgoodfor business?and that was the full extent of my customer service experience.
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Similar stories are not uncommon for many women.
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are founded and managed by women.
They hire customer service reps who are kind, queer-friendly, and genuinely knowledgeable about sex education.
A feministsextoy boutique does not play games when it comes to good materials and excellent service.
Think of the staff like the Geek Squad of getting off.
Obviously, you could word this one however youd like.
The point is: Dont pretend to be an expert.
Youre not an expert!
Sometimes the most awkward questions can really break the ice.
Trust me, this is not an uncommon question.
In fact, its a great one to set up a rapport.
You want to establish with the salesperson that youre new to this experience, but also curious and excited.
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Remind yourself that youre doing something for you and this person is here to take this journey with you.
Let yourself be uncomfortable.
Vibrators are complicated pieces of equipment.
They seem to have an overwhelming number of buttons, speeds, and vibration patterns.
Do you like pinpointedclitoral stimulation?
If so, you may want to check out a smaller vibratorsize varies, but many are pocket sized.
Do you enjoy penetrating yourself (or having a partner penetrate you) when seeking orgasm?
G-spot wands can also be used as external clit vibesjust dont stick it inside!
Its always fun to have some variety available.
Youll also what to think about the size and shape you might be interested in.Something small?Something large?
A toy that looks like household decor?
Not at all sure?
The kind of toy you buy is about personal preference.
They are as unique as you are!
Theyll probably even let you turn them on!
Their job is to confirm you leave happy and confident in your choice.
Toys come in a variety of materials, but for beginners, stay simple.
Choose a vibrator made from medical-grade silicone.
Some toys are made from body-safe silicone; I dont recommend buying toys made from anything under medical-grade.
Think of this way: Medical grade means hospital quality.
Would you want anything less high-quality on or inside your cooch?
The FDA doesnt regulate pleasure products, meaning companies can make their toys with essentially any materials they want.
This is why you have to do your due diligence.
Medical grade is the best quality material.
Youll want to be sure toclean your toys after every single use.
Otherwise, lingering bacteria can result in a bacterial infection or the spread of STIs.
This is especially important if youre using toys with multiple partners.
The way you clean your toys is an essential part of the vibrator owners manual.
Every toy will come with specific directions you should read carefully before use.
Generally, a mild soap and water will do the trick for most toys.
Some toys, such as those made of stainless steel or glass, can be boiled in water.
Vibrators have motors, which means they cannot be cleaned this way.
If youre not sure what to do, just ask.
There is a lot of confusion around this one.
Some toys say they are waterproof when what they really mean is splash proof.
If a toy has a motor, it usually cannot be completely submerged in water.
You dont want to ruin your brand new vibrator, do you?
If it can be submerged in water it will say water submersible in the directions.
Luckily, all you have to do is ask the salesperson.
They will know for sure whether or not this toy isbathtub approved.
Betcha didnt even think of this one!
When you are using a sex toy of any kind,lube is an absolute must.
The salesperson will have some in-store recommendations that will go perfectly with your new vibrator.
Certain lubes should not be used with certain kinds toys (or during specific sexual situations).
It can cause damage to your cherished vibrator.
When in doubt, stick with a water-based lube.
These lubes are the most mild and dont come with the drawbacks of other lubes.
I love the water-based lubes from Unbound Jelly, Good Clean Love, and Babelube.
Last, but not least, ask for a few specific, tailor-made choices to pick from.
This is an overwhelming process.
it’s possible for you to easily streamline it by having a professional do the heavy lifting for you.
when you obtain three solid options, turn each of them on.
See how they feel on your hand.
Your first vibrator isa magical tool for self-discovery.
When you find the right one for you, youll know.
There is a kind of cosmic connection.
Now go forth with your bad self and enjoy!
