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But leave it toSelena Gomezand Benny Blancos relationship to reinstill hope for what ahealthy, loving romancecan look like.
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Obviously, none of us know the details of their private, intimate lives.
Sure, a famous duo has far more resources than the average couple.
But still, theres something to be said for celebrating perceivedgreen flagswhen we see them.
Making each others happiness a priority.
Relationships arent just about being happy individually.
Blanco and Gomez make it a point to actively lift each other up.
In fact, its the very first thing the Grammy-nominated music producer says he does when he wakes up.
I think to myself, How can I make Selenas day better?
Blanco said on theOn Purpose With Jay Shettypodcast.
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Building trust through reliable actions and affirming words.
Trustis the foundation of any strong relationship, but its not easy to build.
One specific way he does this?
Reassuring her with a simple text like, Im going to this next thing.
Im thinking about you, whenever theyre physically apart.
I know what she needs to succeed, so Im going to help her succeed, Blanco added.
Expressing your love through thoughtful, personalized gestures.
Of course, Blancos bougiebathtub filled with quesoisnt exactly in the cards for us regular folks.
But the couple continues to prove that showing love doesnt require you to go big or spend large.
Reframing conflict as opportunities for growth.
Conflict doesnt exactly sound like something anyonewantsin their relationship.
However, Blanco and Gomez have a refreshingly mature way of handling rough patches.
Rather than argue, I feel like we just have conversations, Blanco said on Shettys podcast.
As SELFpreviously reported, romantic success isnt aboutneverdisagreeing but tackling hurdles as a team.
Respecting each others boundaries and personal space.
Beingcodependentisnt a positive thing, since its important to maintain your independence and tend to your other relationships too.
Navigating that sweet spot can be tough, but Blanco and Gomez seem to have found the perfect balance.
I dont have to be on top of her every second.
She doesnt have to be on top of me every second were together, Blanco told Shetty.
Were both highly independent people, but were both little mushes who need to be attached at the hip.
Making it a point to appreciate each other every single day.
Especially in long-term relationships, its easy to accidentally take your SO for granted.
Last night, we were in the pool…and I was just like, youre so beautiful.
And I dont mean that just physically.
you’re able to feel ittheres a ring, an aura around her that exudes warmth.
This sentiment is one that Gomez says she appreciates too.
I actually feel valued.
I feel respected, theSunset Blvdsinger toldInterview Magazine.
Letting each other shine without feeling threatened.
While speaking toInterview Magazine, Blanco revealed, Theres no ego between us.
Shes praying for me to win, and Im praying for her to win.
Gomez, too, is on the same page.
Its no wonder why the world is smitten with this unlikely pairing.
Celebrity or not, thats what any strong partnership is aboutlifting each other up and celebrating each others successes.
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