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Ah,the holidays.
Sometimes I still feel like she’s invading my space, even though I invited her into it!"
It' not insincere, it' loving, and the emotion is the authentic part.
Now it’s your turn to offer a little time and effort.
How can I let it go and just enjoy my time with my loved ones?"
“It’s important to recognize who you are and how you do things,” explains Dr. Birndorf.
For instance, finding some one-on-one time with your aging grandmother may be necessary.
Spending 15 minutes wrapping her Christmas giftjust so?
And while this may go against your instincts, make time foryou.
“A lot of people think taking time for yourself is selfish,” says Dr. Birndorf.
“It’s not selfish-it’s self-preservation.
Allowing yourself the time and space to take care of yourself is essential, it’s not optional.”
Write it down and do it.
Are you stressed about an ongoing life issue likerelationship woesor work worry?
Or have you been trying to diet andexerciseand not seeing the results?
See yourself as a whole person, not just a dimple.
Forgive yourself a few flaws.
I seem to hinge all of my self-worth on whether I’m in a relationship.
How can I learn to be content on my own?"
Between Disney fairy tales and Jerry “You complete me!”
Maguire, it’s no wonder so many women think finding the right guy is the be-all and end-all.
(Hint: It’s not!)
Do you long for the companionship?
Do you buy into society’s expectation that everyone should have a significant other?
Or does being coupled up make you feel more secure?
Are there other ways you could feel secure in yourself, maybe by pursuing passions that make you happy?
If that’s the case,flying solois definitely the better option!
), you’ll feel more satisfied because you’ll have more going on than just your relationship.
How do I stop feeling this way?"
It’s natural to reflect on your own accomplishments when you hear about others' success.
But these news flashes can also spur you to reassess the choices you have in your life.
You don’t have to tackle everything at once.
How can I give without going overboard?"
It’s a win-win-win!
