Its simply the way my classmates and I were taughtat school, on the playground, on playdates.
Erm, how do I break that habit?
I forget that there can be a big difference between being nice and being a good person.
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A therapist in college once told me that I was just nice.
Doesnt that bug you?
Being nice doesnt make you a decent or trustworthy person if there arent good intentions behind your behavior.
This should probably go without saying, but lots of very good, ethical people arent too friendly.
Sometimes Im standoffish to protect myself.
Other times its because Im a having a rough day, or am too busy to talk.
Regardless of the why, its not something worth feeling guilty over!
I worry that Im not being seen for all the other things that I am besides nice.
For what its worth, I really appreciate being told I am nice by loved ones.
Note to self: I am useful in other ways, dammit!
And I have a hard time telling people no.
Being told to just smile by random dudes on the street is that much more annoying.
and Dont you feel like talking?
and Why wont you give Uncle Greg a hug?
like and thank you!
My anger isnt always taken seriously.
And if Im speaking directly to a person Im angry at, forget it.
As a result, Im terrified of confrontation.
And people sometimes feel entitled to only seeing me in a good mood.
We all do this to an extent, and its so inhibiting!
Its not our job to placate other peoples emotions!
Kindness is so important.
you’re able to never know for sure what anyone around you is going through in private.
People-pleasing ladies of the universe, here is your blanket permission to not always be nice.
Be thoughtful, be caring, but if you dont want to be a 24/7 people-pleaser, dont be.
