Everyone wants to be happy.
“The more it’s top of mind, the more automatic doing the right thing will become.”
(Suddenly, going for runs and tackling that work project feel easier.
What it is:The raw endurance, perseverance and passion that keep you going despite obstacles.
Why it matters:Realizing big dreams takes work.
(It’s also closely linked with a higher college GPA.)
Being gritty isn’t always fun.
That’s why grit requires passion.
It’s easier to plug away at a goal if you’re fired up.
“Build up your grit gradually, like a muscle,” Peterson says.
For instance, if you’re psyched about cooking, make a homemade version of your favorite take-out dish.
Crack an in-depth article about your favorite candidate, instead of scanning headlines.
“Engaging fully takes extra time, and that’s the point.
You’ll develop mental stamina.”
What it is:A penchant for seeking out the new and different.
They’re also apt to push themselves to learn and meet their goals,Motivation and Emotionreports.
Curious folks are also better problem solvers.
At the least, you’ll have fun exploring kooky ideas and have amazing conversations along the way.
“Rather than starting with a rote ‘What’s going on at the office?’
find out what weird or funny or interesting thing happened that day,” Kashdan suggests.
What it is:Believing that the best may lie ahead.
Research from Duke University found that optimistic MBA grads got jobs faster, despite being pickier.
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy," adds Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., author ofThe How of Happiness.
Research finds that people who took stock for a week felt happier.
If they kept it up, the good mood lasted a full six months.
What it is:Close, caring relationships where the good vibes flow both ways.
Why it matters:Love makes it easier to get through tough times and reach your peak potential.
Even cooler, merelythinkingof ways a loved one had supported them had the same effect.
How to get more:Nurture your friendships, in person, during bad times and good.
Most of us are ready to rush to someone going through a hard time.
But that’s not enough.
You’ll attach positive energy to the bond and help it flourish.
Does she always cancel?
Has something changed in her life?
How did she act when you saw her last?
Then approach her the way you’d want her to talk to you: “I miss hanging out.
Is something up?”
Why it matters:We all saythank youcountless times a day, usually automatically.
The rest is gravy.
You’ll get an added lift from taking pleasure in the little things.
Plus, when you express thanks sincerely, you’re more likely to get support back.
What it is:Tackling life with energy, excitement, enthusiasm and eagerness.
And when the blahs do hit, listen to your body and take mini-breaks to recharge.
Calling a pal or getting outside for a walk can be enough to get your juices flowing again.
