We had ob/gyns explain howsex changes after giving birth, and their responses were quite eye-opening.
From milk leakage to vaginal tightness, they did not hesitate togo there.
That is, until I resumed afterbirth bleeding for a ridiculous eight additional weeks.
That put a damper on things.
But when we eventually started again, I realized I could segment my sex life into three stages.
Before pregnancy, sex was constant.
During, it was orgasmic.
And now, it’s loving.
After the twins, my partner fell more in love with me.
Evenmyorgasmsare my bigger and longer-lasting.But sex after kids has also been quite torturous.
Being quiet has never been fun for me, and it makes it harder to achieve orgasm."
Shana C., 36
2.
“Before giving birth, our sex life was fine.
Then in May 2013, I was induced and had a vaginal birth with an epidural.
We started having sex again when the doctor approved it: after six weeks.
Things are fine now, but having a child changes yoursleeppatterns significantly.
Kathryn K., 35
3.
“I gave birth in January 2014 via vaginal delivery.
It was still really painful.
Now that she is fully weaned, I can really enjoy sex again.
Marissa R., 35
4.
“I gave birth vaginally in June 2015.
We used to have sex once or twice a week.
Sometimes it was steamy, but usually not too exciting after eight years together.
After giving birth, it still hurts a little physically.
Still, it’s rare now to have the time.”
Julie S., 32
5.
“I’ve had three children, all vaginal births.
The first was May 2011, the second was December 2012, and the third was November 2014.
In all three cases, my husband and I started having intercourse about two weeks after I gave birth.
Beforegivingbirth, sex was exciting because my husband and I first enjoyed having sex on our wedding night.
We had three months of discovering each other before I became pregnant.
Now, sex is fulfilling, andmy orgasms have the ability to completely take over all my senses.
They feel fuller after giving birth.”
Leah L., 23
6.
“I gave birth in May 2014 via C-section.
We had sex up until the end, but less frequently when I got big because it was uncomfortable.
Now we have sex about one to two times a week.
Lauren W., 35
7.
“I had to be induced at the end of my pregnancy, then had to have a c-section.
After I started to get a period again, things got back to normal in terms of mysex drive.
Lauren S., 35
8.
“I gave birth via C-section in October 2013 and May 2015.
I started having sex again about a month after each time.
Amanda S., 35
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