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Its like the worlds most pleasurable choose-your-own-adventure journey.
Ryan Segedi. Prop styling by JoJo Li.
You dont wash them correctly or enough (or at all).
Proper toy hygiene and storage are important for the longevity of your toyandyour own safety.
All that said, everyone gets lazy.
Finn suggests keeping unscented baby wipes or a cleanser likeBabeland Toy Cleanerin a bedside drawer for easy access.
An even lazier hack?
With that said, theres an excellent case to be made for actually using lube with a sex toy.
Yes, it requires more cleanup, but it can also have a seriously great payoff.
More on that in a bit.
You automatically go for the most popular toy.
While its atotally fair questionfor curiositys sake, popularity shouldnt completely dictate which toy you use.
This is about your body and your needs.
That doesnt mean that you cant get advice on what toy to get.
If a certain toy is wildly popular, its likely for good reason.
You focus too much on orgasms.
You might be thinking, Well,duh,I want to orgasm when I use a sex toy.
But that attitude could be adding unneeded pressure and taking some of the fun out of it.
What does that look like in practice?
You might want to start by mixing up how youre using your toy.
The Magic Wand was originally designed to be a back massager, she points out.
You only use toys by yourself.
Theres often a weird shame about bringingtoys into partnered sex.
But it doesnt have to be related to anything like that.
You dont use the right (or any) lube.
Lubecan be just as useful for solo sex as it is for partnered sexsometimes even more so.
Silicone-based lube will deteriorate the surface of a silicone toy and pretty much ruin it over time.
You only let expensive, luxury sex toys near your genitals.
Hey, it makes sense, you deserve the best.
Dont be afraid to get a $20 battery-operated bullet and explore your body with that.
Once you find out what works and what doesnt, you’re free to upgrade to something better.
After you do know what you like, splurging can be worth it.
You dont read the instructions.
Look, I get it.
When you buy a new toy, sometimes you want to try it right away, instructions be damned.
But there are usually a few reasons not to do that.
You share toys without taking the proper precautions.
Using the same sex toys without protection is essentially the same thing as having unprotected sex.
Youre sharing bodily fluids, which puts you at risk of getting asexually transmitted infection.
Not taking the proper precautions with this can also increase your risk ofbacterial vaginosis, Dr. Streicher says.
colithat chill in the rectum, so cross-contamination can lead to infections.
So what exactly are proper precautions here?
Youre embarrassed about using a sex toy.
Of course, letting go of any inhibitions you have around sex toys can be easier said than done.
Remember that the point of a sex toy is to find your pleasure, says Finn.
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