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First up, BD, aka bondage and discipline.
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Then theres DS, or dominance and submission.
Dominance and submission are more about power dynamics, Aaron explains.
Its often shortened to sadomasochism to make things easier.
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Theres a lot of misunderstanding about how common this is, Aaron says.
A lot of people may think just a small minority has these desires.
Theres no need for that.
Its a healthy fantasy to have and one that should be explored, Jones says.
Sexisnt a necessary part of the action.
BDSM doesnt have to be sexual in naturesome people like it for the power only, Jones says.
All sorts of people like BDSM, including those who seem straitlaced.
Some of the most conservative-seeming individuals are into BDSM, Jones says.
When done properly, BDSM can be the exact opposite.
She finds it especially helpful for people who struggle with control and power dynamics.
Whoever feels like they have less power in the relationship gets the power during the role play.
Contrary to popular opinion, the dominant person doesnt really launch the show.
A safeword is an agreed upon term either person can say if they need to put on the brakes.
Because a submissive is under someone elses control, theyre more likely to need or want to use it.
Whenever the safeword is given, the scene stopsno questions asked, Jones says.
Christian should have saved his money.
Plus, since your mind is the ultimate playground, you may not need any other toys at all.
And much like yourweekly meals, BDSM is better when planned.
BDSM should never be done spontaneously, Jones says.
The BDSM community actually prides itself on physical and emotional safety.
Of course, sometimes its still a gamble.
There are a number of entry points for people, Aaron says.
One isFetLife, a social media website for people with various kinks.
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