In fact, thats a super limiting (not to mention, heteronormative) definition.
But you probably wouldnt choose to haveonlyvanilla for the rest of your life, right?
Thats to say, adding new flavors can spice up a dish and ensure it caters to different tastes.
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for all those folks.
And for similar reasons, it might bring you gender euphoria (or be a joyful gender-affirming experience!)
or better align with your cultural, religious, or personal beliefs, Heidegger says.
And if youre not dating or partnered?
Well, non-penetrative solo sex doesnt require another persons body.
Whereas, defining anything pleasurable as a form of sex in and of itself can remove that pressure.
Its very much a sexual activity and deserves to be regarded as such.
Yes, were talking about oral sex, which comes in a ton of different varieties!
Want to get fancy?
Massaging the anus or perineum with a lubed-up fingera.k.a.
anal surfacingcan introduce a whole different kind of sexual pleasure.
Who said the touching had to start (or stop) down there?
For instance, are you cool with being tied up but dont want anything restricting your neck or face?
Some people can have very, very kinky sex…and their genitals dont even touch, Wright says.
That alone could be a fun challenge.
For some people, that cuddling releases the oxytocin they need or want, and theyre good.
And if you dont have a partner?
A dip in the tub or a shower is the perfect me-time for fingering yourself (youre already naked!
)just dont forget thesilicone-based lube.
Plenty of vibrators can do all sorts of good without making an entrance in the front or back door.
Some folks love to be watched, and some folks love to watch!
Plus, theres something uniquely vulnerable about allowing a partner to witnesshow you like to masturbate, she adds.
Better yet if they also give themselves a hand at the same time (a.k.a.
mutual masturbation)which is an option for FaceTime canoodling (orphone sex) too.
Theres really no end to the number of sexual experiences that could star in your non-penetrative repertoire.
