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What is the deal with the G-spot?
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My inbox is positively overflowing with these questions.
So lets answer them, shall we?
Here is everything you’re gonna wanna know about the G-spot.
Join me as we unravel some of the most common myths and misconceptions.
To be perfectly clear: The G-spot definitely is real.
Why is there so much controversy?
It is much more complicated than we might expect.
Like, for one thing, it isnt actually a spot.
There’sno single anatomical structurethat is the G-spot.
It was first described in the 1950s by a German gynecologist named Ernst Grafenberg.
They called it the Grafenberg spot, G-spot, for shorta misnomer that really stuck.
The clitoris ismore than the small bud you see at the top of the vulva.
The clitoris extends inside the body, up to 5 inches, well into the labia and abdomen.
It is a walnut-textured patch surrounding the urethral sponge and canal.
(It can expand to a wider area, depending on a womans body.)
You cannot just put something inside of the vagina and hit the G-spot.
It is way up there at a curvenot in easy reach of the penis.
With rear-entry penetrationin a position like doggy-style or reverse-cowgirlyou’re more likely to hit it.
Pinpointed, concentrated stimulation of the G-spot area may be desirable and pleasure-inducing for some people.
Its capacity to offer sexual pleasure varies from person to person.
Some women enjoy internal G-spot stimulation during sexual play, some do not.
Weve been wrongly pushed towards amyth of the higher quality of vaginal orgasmsince the days of Freud.
The truth is, every orgasm is valid and no one key in is better than another.
And, by the way,orgasms are not the be all and end all of sex.
If you are enjoying a sexual experience and it feels pleasurable to you, that is all the matters.
However you like to be touched is normal, healthy, and fabulous.
