‘Tis the season for wedding planning!
Judd Apatow takes on that weighty honor in his comedyBridesmaids, hitting theaters this week.
Has one of your engaged friends suddenly turned into bridezilla?
Worried your friendship will suffer from all the extra stress?
Anxious about allotting extra dough?
“The bride goes through a whirlwind of emotions, from excitement and happiness to stress.
When you’re a bridesmaid, you might’t turn it off.
You have to be there.
As a bridesmaid it’s very hard to get space.”
Cheers to a silver lining!
It’s natural for the bride to get consumed in everything wedding, so Bonior advises to stay compassionate.
“attempt to let some things roll of your back,” says Bonior.
From taking on too much responsibility tooverpayingon bridal shower favors, resentment can be difficult to overcome.
“give a shot to be honest with the bride,” insists Bonior.
Don’t justbe honestwith the bride, be honest with yourself, Bonior emphasizes.
“You owe it to your friend not to let it get out of hand.”
So how do you bring up a tough topic with a bride-to-be?
In a quiet setting without ambushing the bride.
Stay Organized
____Being a bridesmaid brings big responsibility in terms of scheduling.
“I see the most stressful bridesmaid situations come up when someone is justprocrastinating,” says Bonior.
Try your best and don’t let things drag on."
Does your penciled in planner get you down?
Spice up your to-do list with colored markers that separate the must-get-dones from the this-will-be-funs!
Too many dress fittings and cake tastings in a row?
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Don’t Regress to High School
____Bonior’s number one ‘no-no’ for bridesmaids?
Don’t make teams!
“This should be as democratic of a process as possible,” says Bonior.
“Don’t create any vendettas.
It’s going to come back and bite you!”
Focusing on the big picture is key, says Bonior.
make a run at get her to come back to that.
Sometimes that’s exactly what the bride needs."
“When you think back, you’re truly in her inner circle.
Not to mention, there’s the emotional intimacy to being there for her when she’s stressed.
If she feels like she could come to you, that’s a very strengthening experience.
Share laughs with your crew whenBridesmaidsopens in theaters tomorrow!
–Emilia Murdoch
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