If you havent heard of Bresha Webb, youre missing out.
They were always running toward a relationship andat timesletting therelationshipdefine them.
And thats whereRun the Worldis different.
Shane McCauley
Its about four best friends, and theyre running it.
The men are with us (or they’re not), but theyre still running it.
This tendency to take control and run it extends beyond Webbs latest role.
Two years ago, Webb made the immensely personal decision to freeze her eggs.
But just as fertility depends on various factors, egg freezing discussions require nuance too.
Then, your doctor will retrieve the eggs and freeze them for potential use later on.
It sounds pretty straightforward, but its important to remember that frozen eggs arent a sure thing.
But nobody should walk away from a conversation thinking that freezing oocytes represents a guarantee of future childbirth."
(Hint: Theres a pandemic love story involved.)
Can you take me back to the moment when you decided to do it?
Webb:I had just gotten out of a three-year relationship.
And I was just so focused on my career.
I wasn’t thinking about it.
SELF: Geriatric pregnancy?
Webb:Yes, geriatric.
And I thoughtthat word was so rude.
I spoke to a friend whofroze her eggs, and I was weeping at her house.
I was saying, Oh, my God, I ruined everything.
I’m not going to find a husband.
I’m not going to have children.
I don’t know how this is going to work.
And she was like, Bresha, just freeze your eggs.
SELF: It sounds like you felt a lot of agency during the processlike you interviewed several doctors.
How did you know when youd found the right one?
A lot of people, including myself, don’t know the egg freezing and fertility process.
So my doctor had to draw a picture and break it down for me.
That’s not what they teach in school now, you know?
But my doctor was amazing.
He made me feel very confident about doing it in four weeks.
SELF: What stands out about the entire process?
And I was shooting myself in the lower abdomen every day, sometimes twice a day, with hormones.
Before the procedure, I was going in for ultrasounds every day.
In the end, we were able to get 21 eggs.
At the time, I wasn’t even really convinced that I wanted to have kids.
I was cool with being the sassy auntie with the dollar bills.
SELF: What was the hardest thing about the journey?
Webb:Being by myself.
SELF: I love the idea of preparing for a future you could not see.
Webb:I don’t even know.
I mean, my parents have been in love for 38 years now.
And so I aspired to be in love like them.
And I fell in love!
Thats been the highlight of my 2021.
A person introduced me to someone while I was inquarantinein Canada.
We connected virtually, and we’ve been together since.
Manifestation and prayer are so important to me.
I’ve seen people that don’t reflectlove, and Ive seen what comes to them.
So I’m always trying to be on that happy frequency.
It’s easier to be lifted, easier to live life a little higher.
I’m not going to act like I’m a saint.
It’s an everyday battle to be gentle and take care of myself.
I don’t know how people do it with kids.
SELF: You’ll have to let me know.
Webb:I’ll let you know when I get to that mountain.
Quotes have been edited for clarity.
