personal trainer to help verify I was doing the exercises safely.

My question iswhat do I do at the gym now?

I want to get a new routine, because even now the old one feels boring.

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Do I need to pay another eye-searing amount of money to a personal trainer?

very obscure machines I do not know how to use or identify!).

Thanks!Sara

You have made great progress!!

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The generic antidote you will usually see pushed is to mix it up.

But what does itturns chair aroundmeanreverses baseball captomix it up?

You got intostrength trainingbecause you had a goal: to get into strength training.

You achieved that goal!

But now you are goal-less, in part because getting started with something is usually the most straightforward part.

You dont have to be all-in all the time on everything.

Ive been living reactively with respect to everyone and everything else, and not proactively for myself.

While some guilt comes with de-prioritizing other things, deliberately prioritizing at least one thing for yourself feels amazing.

I cant set you a new goal, because I dont know what you want.

For instance, would you like tobe able to do a pull-up?

There are programs for that.

Would you want to train for a sport, even if that sport is (woof)running?

There are programs for that as well.

Do you want to get as physically strong as humanly possible?

Do you want to do anobstacle course?

Join a dragon boat?

Do a power-lifting competition?

Same for if you wanted to run a race, or do a performance.

My biggest suggestion here would be not to make an aesthetic goal.

Now I can do five real pull-ups at a time.

Many peoplemake the mistakeof thinking that their lack of progress means they need to switch up their program.

So, continuing with this does depend on you embracing a direction.

She writes the column “Ask a Swole Woman” for SELF.

you could find her on Twitter:@caseyjohnston.