Are you curious about slapping your partner or being slapped by your partner during sex?
Youve come to the right place.
When it comes tosexual spanking, slapping, whipping, we can get a bit uncomfortable.
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There are questions of whether or not slapping is abuse, harmful, a sign youre demented, etc.
Any erotic pain-play can stir up emotions in many of us.
Sex comes with all kinds of emotions, both positive and negative.
In fact, any sexual act between consenting adults is perfectly fine.
Youre not a bad person for wanting to slap or be slapped.
For all the slapping beginners out there, we have you covered.
Heres everything you better know before you land your first blow.
Before youdoanything, you have to talk everything through.
There should certainly not be any unexpected face slapping during sex.
That is non-consensual play and a big no-no.
If youre wondering how to introduce the topic, no worries.
First, ask them if this is something theyd be willing to explore.
Slapping a face is a step up from spanking a butt.
Slapping can be very empowering and sexy for some people, and not at all for others.
The key is to find a video where the slapping isnt scary or seemingly non-consensual.
Meaning, no going to Pornhub or RedTube.
Look for something on a female-focused site such asTrenchCoatXorBellesa.
The goal is to elicit excitement, not fear.
Do not go into BDSM, or kink of any kind, without knowing what youre doing.
If possible, take a class on slapping.
(Yes, thats a thing.)
There are plenty of places in major cities that offer free classes such asThe Pleasure ChestandBabeland.
It can very helpful to see things for yourself.
Here is agreat video on spankingfrom sex ed genius Jess Wilde.
Thisintro video, from Nina Pain, is basically face slapping 101.
The point is, you want to know everything you might before trying anything yourself.
If you havent gotten good at spanking abutt, do not go slapping a face.
Face slapping is basically butt slapping, only more advanced and with more risks.
No slapping until thespankingis on lock.
Now, you might not be into butt slapping, but are turned on by face slapping.
This is totally valid.
A butt is going to absorb a slap more easily than a face.
There is generally less pain and greater surface area to work with.
Practice on butts, and then move to faces.
This should be a non-sexual word that lets your partner know they should stop and check in with you.
I recommend something like the following: banana, red, sailboat, strawberry, etc.
Your safe word is a safetynet.
Its important to remember that as the slappee, you are still in control of your body.
If something isnt working for you, you do not have to do it again.
Dont begin your foray into slapping by full-force smacking the hell out of your partner.
Thats probably not going to end well.
You may end up with a bruise or ablack eye.
Start with gentler blows.
When youre making out, pull back and lightly slap your partner across the face.
Rub the spot where you hit them to soothe the skin.
Work your way up to harder smacks.
Communicate and check in.
Everyone should be into it every step of the way.
When slapping, never go for it willy nilly.
Instead, place one hand on the opposite cheek of the person youre slapping.
This helps to both stabilize their head and to absorb some of the blow.
It makes the slap far less of a stinging pain, and even perhaps a bit more passionate.
The face is a highly sensitive area that requires careful navigation.
Stay away from places like the ears or eyes.
Focus entirely on cheeks.
Staying on-cheek does means youll need to have good aim.
Hence, beginning with spanking and softer face slaps.
Master the fundamentals first, then it’s possible for you to get slaphappy.
