For a minute, I’m in my own Hollywood flick and reality is forgotten.
Heck, the fact that I might not be having sex with anyone is forgotten!
True sexiness, it turns out, is not about your looks or where you live.
It’s about how self-assured you are and the vibe you project.
“In L.A., you’re more in touch with your skin because you’re not bundled up.”
But warm weather isn’t crucial; your becoming more attuned to your body is.
“Nerve endings are a gateway to our sexualitythey enable us to feel vital,” Dr. Holstein says.
Then, while you sip coffee, savor the warm mug against your lips.
Instead of rushing around, stroke and appreciate the softness of your pet’s furry coat.
Heeding your senses will wake you up and energize you, in bed and out.
“If you focus on your senses, you’ll be more self-awareI respond tothistype of music.
And knowing what arouses you is key to being fully involved in bed.”
“But noticing my perfume reminds me there are other dimensions to my life.”
What they do is runon the beach or boardwalk.
Or they hike or skateboard.
That may help Los Angelenos get more aroused than the rest of us.
“People in good health tend to have higher libidos.
And the more you feel that way, the more you’ll actually become that way.
Your hormone levels can actually change as your outlook starts to shift.”
“No one has to tell me I’m hot.
I know it when I see what my body can do.”
My petite A-cupsalong with the rest of my bodyare often on display for everyone to see.
I can tell, becausethey’rewearing next to nothing, too.
That can lead to an urge to merge, so to speak.
“The salespeople dress like cheerful dominatrices,” she says.
“I’m not like that particularly, but nobody questions whether I’m hot enough to be there.
“It’s about flaunting your strengths instead of hiding.
Studies suggest that there is an association between liking yourself in general and liking yourself during lovemaking.
“They’re apt to try more positions in bed.
Partly, that sexual self-esteem comes from having a sense of effectiveness in the world,” she explains.
Ky loves to wear racerback tanks that reveal her one-of-a-kind sky-blue marking.
“It tends to get me a lot of attention,” she says.
“Mostly it’s for kicks, but it’s also a genuine turn-on.”
Adopting a friskier point of view may help you reduce anxiety, an emotion measured by the hormone cortisol.
Acting childlikein the best sense of the wordcan help shift you from business to anything but.
Photo Credit: Cathrine Wessel
