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Its not about hurting that person, its about what you need.
John Gall
Here are a few signs that it might be time to break up with your therapist.
It might even be the encouragement of knowing youre working on yourself with a professional you click with emotionally.
It was one of the reasons she eventually dumped her therapist.
She would let me talk through things on my own without reacting much, Rachel says.
One of the main points oftherapyis to open up.
It can feel really bizarre to essentially pay someone to call you out on your shit when necessary.
If you cant, how are you going to work through them?
Therapy problems can be logistical too.
If youre unable to keep appointments, it might be time to look elsewhere.
Its okay to decide that isnt going to be helpful to you.
Luis M., 29, has been in this situation.
I’m Puerto Rican, I talk with my hands, Luis tells SELF.
She did not understand that at all, he says.
I was so frustrated with constantly having to be like, Hey, this is the way I talk.
Let’s move on.
Were not always ending therapy because it stopped working, Dr. Amsellem says.
Maybe were ending it because ithasworked.
Ready to break up with a therapist?
Talk to them first.
Dr. Amsellem suggests starting with something like, Theres something I wanted to talk about.
My goals from therapy are [insert said goals here].
Im concerned were not meeting them together.
Is there any way we can get closer to helping me achieve these goals?
You may want to do this with your therapist or privately, depending on the situation.
It really depends on how acute the issues are that youre dealing with.
If its an acute situation, like serious depression, its going to be really important.
Both of those situations can compromise your safety and require input from an expert first.)
Honestly, this part is a lot like ending a relationship with someone youre dating.
The length of time youve been together determines a lot about how you should break up with them.
Instead, ending treatment via email or a phone call is typically fine.
At only a few weeks in, youre still getting to know each other.
At the end of the day, remember that therapy is foryou.
Therapists are meant to have your best interests in mind.
See more from ourGuide to Caring for Your Mental Health here.
