But whos to say a bit of woo is incompatible with psychology?
Sure, Libras are said to be the ultimate peacemakers, all about balance and harmony in their relationships.
Weve all been there.
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Recognize and interrupt the fawn response.
When youre fawning, you lose track of what youre actually feeling in that moment.
How do you spot it in action?
What do you want to say and do that aligns authentically with who you are?
she asksversus automatically acting however you think will keep the peace or make the other person happy.
Tune into your body to overcome indecisiveness too.
For example, imagine youre trying to decide between ordering chocolate or vanilla ice cream.
Literally picture yourself getting and eating each flavor, Jones Boyle says.
What does the chocolate taste like?
How do you feel when you lick it?
Is it what you want?
What might your life look like if you said yesor noto that opportunity?
How do I feel about it?
Carve out a beautiful, calming space for self-care.
No need to turn into a full-on interior decorator, either.
Repeat after us: Its okay not to be liked.
If you identify with Libra traits, youre probably naturally gifted at making people feel comfortable.
Thats where mantras can come in handy, according to Jones Boyle.
This practice can remind you that being your true self means not everyone will like you.
And not only is that okay, but its actually a good thing.
Set boundaries and enforce them.
For Libras and recovering people pleasers everywhere,setting boundariescan feel like a conflict waiting to happen (a.k.a.
the last thing you want).
So what makes a boundary effective?
There are three key components to keep in mind: It should be clear, expressed, and enforceable.
A lot of people arent even really aware of what a healthy boundary is, Jones Boyle notes.
First, get clear on what you need.
Then express it to othersbecause, as she points out, people cant read your mind.
Finally, the hardest part: enforcement.
Its not enough to simply state a limit; you have to follow through on it.
Dont know where to start?
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