It might seem strange to read a story about how to feel sexier right now.
It can seem unimportant considering the pressing concerns were all facing.
If how to feel sexier is the last thing youre worried about, its understandable.
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You could end up feeling a little more secure in your own body.
Gauge your baseline sexual energy pre-pandemic.
If your drive was sort of faint or nonexistent before, be gentle with yourself as you explore.
Carve out time to prioritize pleasureand remember that its important for resilience.
Recognize that your body has probably changed.
We are not in the world we were in a year ago, Dr. Powell says.
Experiencing chronic stresswhich involves fight or flight hormones like cortisol and adrenalinecan have a major impact on your libido.
Then, adopt an experimental attitude.
Dr. Powell suggests asking yourself questions like, Does it help me towatch something really steamy?
Does it help me toread some erotica?
Does it help me to watch some porn or take a longbubble bath?
Consider playing around with your decor.
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I think thats part of our sexualitygetting out in the world, having adventures.
Clearly, the pandemic has pressed pause on many peoples ability to safely embark upon various kinds of adventures.
But you might be able to bring items into your house that excite your senses a little.
Wear your sexiest pre-pandemic outfit (yup, just to lounge at home).
Much the way tweaking your decor might encourage you to feel a bit sexier, dressing up can help.
Its not about dressing for a specific occasion.
Its about wearing something that makes you feel good.
Try yoga or other forms of exercise.
If youre not feeling particularly sexy at the moment, Dr. Buehler suggests physical practices, likeyogaor deep breathing.
Dont be afraid to talk to someone about your sex life.
But that doesnt mean you have to ignore it if its bothering you.
And you might work directly with asex therapistto explore some of your feelings, if possible.
Dont feel any trepidation or shame, Dr. Buehler says.
Sometimes just a few sessions can be really helpful.
