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The clitoris, the clitoris, the clitoris.THE CLITORIS!
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This is a shame, because your mind is your biggest sex organ.
It plays a huge role in arousal and desirea bigger role than we ever give it credit for.
Here is how you get out of your busy, busy mind and into your body for better sex.
This is, unfortunately, not a great way to stay connected to your body during sex.
You inhale for a count of four seconds through your nose, she says.
Second, hold the inhale for a count of four seconds.
Third, exhale for a count of four seconds through your mouth.
[Lastly,] hold the exhale for a count of four seconds.
Repeat this same process three or four times and your body will naturally release tension.
You might find that your threshold for pleasure is even wider than you ever imagined.
We tend to get bogged down ina cycle of negative self-talk.
Overstreet says getting out this habit is hugely important to being present during sex.
Write out three to five of your favorite affirmations and put them on Post-it notes," Overstreet suggests.
If they are in your face, youre forced to see and absorb them.
Believing positive things about yourself is key to being comfortable in your skin.
Confidence is a big part of feeling good during sex.
Meditationis a great way to get focused in your everyday life, but its also beneficial for sex.
Practicingmindfulnessand taking time away from your hectic schedule to center your thoughts will reap benefits in the bedroom.
Its about becoming aware of yourself and your body,
What meditation means is different for everyone.
You might prefer guided meditations, or you may enjoy listening to peaceful piano music to ground yourself.
How the process works is different for each person and there is no right way to meditate.
(For a guided meditation app, giveHeadSpacea try.
If music is your thing, try the Peaceful Piano playlist on Spotify.)
Getting into a meditation groove takes practice, which means doing it every single day.
Worried about making that much of a commitment?
Just think of all the orgasms in your future.
You will find that the more you practice meditating, the easier it is, Overstreet says.
Being able to openly and honestly share your needs and feelings helps you establish trust.
Your ability to tell your partner what you like and don’t like is everything, Overstreet explains.
Share what you want in bed and also share what youdontwant.
We all want more orgasms and to enjoy sex even more.
Take steps now to get more comfortable in your body so you dont miss another second.
