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(Rim jobs, anyone?)
If youre eager to knock at the back door, heres how to make it feel amazing.
Its perfectly normal to feel bad about sexual taboos because of societal norms, Dr. Brito says.
But theres nothing wrong with touching butts!
A lot of the ideas well discuss here can be just as fun solo.
Stroke and caress with your hands.
This is a [good] time to use one of our best sex organsour hands, she says.
Before you get started, check that theyre clean.
(Be extra careful if you have long nails so you dont scratch the butts delicate tissue.)
A2022 studypublished inPLOS Onecalled this method anal surfacing, and 40% of people surveyed said they enjoyed it.
Try rubbing your or your partners perineuma.k.a.
Whatever you choose: Dont forget to wash your hands when youre done too.
Use a vibrator.
If youre looking for even more intensityor if you just like variety!break out a vibrator.
Thats going to really electrify the whole area, she says.
If you do use a silicone toy, opt for water-based lube to avoid damaging it.
Choose a vibratingbutt plugwith, crucially, a flared base.
Give or get a rim job.
To me, it feels as good as cunnilingus, Taormino says.
Look for flavored options if youre put off by the materials taste.
If youre rimming without a barrier, the recipient may be considering shaving their butt area.
Removal of the hair allows more access to the nerve endings of the anus, according to Lachman.
However: There are some risks with shaving, like ingrown hairs, infection, and irritation.
If you choose to shave, check whether youre seeing or feeling anything uncomfortable or unusual after.
As long as everything seems normal post-shave, Lachman says youre good to go.
They might open their cheeks with their hands or have their partner spread them.
Others prefer to receive rim jobs while on their hands and knees.
The giver can lap with their tongue, lick in circles, and experiment with pressure and rhythm.
Try genital-to-butt grinding.
And it has the additional benefit of genital stimulation for the giver.
A person with a penis or dildo can rub the tip against their partners buttholethats pretty easy to accomplish!
Start with gentle contact and ask if your partner would like to build up pressure from there.
Lube makes this feel even smoother and sexier.
Grinding might not be possible or pleasurable for everyone.
If youre enjoying external anal sex: Consider making the leap to penetration.
But if youre inspired to go inside, your external stimulation skills will help make it feel phenomenal.
Anal penetration is all about the warm-upyou really have to put time into romancing the ass, Taormino says.
Knowing how to make an ass feel good from the outside can help you do the same within.
We want our bodies to feel loose and free to welcome objects into them, Lachman explains.
External stimulation taps into those nerve endings, which leads to relaxation and arousal.
If youd like to give it a try, heresSELFs guide to penetrative anal sex.
If anal penetration isnt for you, thats fine!
There are plenty of other ways to experience sexual pleasureincluding on the outside of your butt.
External stimulation is an amazing sexual activity in and of itself, Taormino says.
So wash your hands, spread those cheeks, and experience the vast pleasures afforded by touching your butt.
