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More often that not,shower sexis anything but glorious.
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But those collective shower sex fantasies cant be for naught.
And, sure, its possible to pull off spontaneous shower sex that doesnt follow the safety guidelines below.
But its also possible toreallyhurt yourself giving that a try.
Since youre in a confined space, your go-to positions may no longer work.
And before you know it, you might find yourself attempting to stand on the rim of thebathtub.
But trust us, you want to start with something simple.
This will help you maintain yourbalance, decreasing your risk of falling.
If standing isnt working for you, consider sitting or lying down, Dr. Abdur-Rahman says.
This seems pretty straightforward, but Dr. Greene emphasized this point a couple of times in our interview.
Keeping both feet on the ground wont do you much good if the floor is covered in slippery soap.
Play around with seated sex positionsits way harder to fall when youre sitting down.
Added friction equals added safety.
If youre standing, the mat will help you better grip the floor.
And if youre sitting, kneeling, or lying down, itll make your situation alotmore comfortable.
Also, dont be afraid to use your shower walls for support, suggests Dr. Green.
Neither is soap, which can be irritating on your genitalsnot to mention harmful if it getsinsidethem.
Youll want to steer clear of trying to use either as a substitute for lubricant.
So even if you dont usually use lube, youll want to get some for shower sex.
But not just any lube will do.
Water-based lube will wash away a lot more quickly than a silicone- or oil-based lubricant.
If you and your partner typically use acondom, go ahead and use one in the shower too.
If finding the right lube is confusing, consult ourhandy lube guide.
She suggests using showering together as an opportunity to experiment with new sensations and get super turned on.
Sex toys can be a great way to have fun in the shower without a whole lot of acrobatics.
There are many, manywaterproof or splash-proof sex toysavailable, in almost any style youd want.
Instead, bring lighter toys in the shower or tub with you.
That still leaves a lot of shower sex toys to choose from.
You might also consider a strapless strap-on for having sex in the shower.
Other shower sex toys Dr. Queen recommends include:vibrating cock rings,palm-held vibrators, andfinger vibrators.
Another thing to remember is that you shouldn’t use silicone toys with silicone lube, Dr. Queen says.
After all, the real secret to hot shower sex is not getting hurt.
Part of the intrigue is trying something new, right?
And, for many people, having sex in the showerisnew.
The excitement is in the shower sex itself.
Theres such a psychosomatic component to it, so it can bring down your libido.
Dont forget to use a bath mat to make things more comfortable and grippy.
To try missionary, have one partner lie down in the tub with the other on top.
Dr. Queen likes this position for the shower because it helps keep water out of your eyes.
Once again, keeping low to the ground will make doggy style a safer shower sex position.
This position can be good for penetration as well as fingering or using a vibrator.
Dr. Fleming recommends trying the infamous reverse cowgirl if you have the tub space.
In this position, you’re able to use a penis or dildo for penetrative sex.
Dr. Grover likes this position for its safety and versatility.
They can also penetrate either vaginally oranally.
For this one, you might want one of those footrests that Dr. Grover suggested.
The other partner stands with their feet apart and knees slightly bent between the other partners legs.
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