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Sexis wonderful when you’re in love (or at least, it should be).
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But it can also be excellent with a random hookup.
If that’s not your thing, good on you for knowing what you’re not into.
Give yourself permission to truly enjoy it in the first place.
“But itispossible to have sexual pleasure if you’re not emotionally connected.
Consider those negative feelings orgasm kryptonite.
As long as everything is safe and consensual, youre well within your rights to do whatever you want!
Know exactly what you and your vagina like.
Next time!and stay in to figure out what gives you the best orgasms.
Or just what makes you feel the best in general, becauseorgasms can be fickle.
That could mean making out for an hour.
It could mean having an electric, intellectually stimulating debate about whether Pluto still deserves to be a planet.
It could mean regular ol' foreplay.
Starting arousal earlier than any kind of penetrative sex is important, says Brown-James.
Still awesome, but it could have been even better.
And actually speak up about what you like.
Its a little kinder on your hookups ego while still getting what you want.
It’s so much easier to orgasm if you’re not dealing with a random asshole interrupting your flow.
Quite literally take matters into your own hands.
you might still reach orgasm since you ** know what works for you.
Using your hands [on yourself] can be a really big turn-on, says Brown-James.
And its a great idea because most women need clitoral play to have an orgasm.
Or whip out a vibrator if thats what youre into.
I dont see why that couldnt happen during a hookup, he explains.
Try the coital alignment technique.
To do it, make a small tweak by having the guy scoot his body up a little bit.
Fantasize, because it can seriously help.
All the more reason to let your mind roam!
Fantasies can shut off anxiety during sex, says Kerner.
Even better: think of them right as youre about to orgasm to really push yourself over the edge.
