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Preparation is just as important for safety as it is for comfort.
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And luckily for you, that preparation is exactly what were covering in this article.
So lets get on with it!
Before anal
This is where therealpreparation happens.
Because spoiler alert: You have options!
Toy in anus:You have a lot of variety when it comes to analsex toys.
There are also plugs, which are smaller and designed to be left in place.
With anal beads, the pleasure is in the removal as much as the insertion.
Oral:Also known as anilingus…or rimming, tossing salad, or your other favorite oral-anal euphemism.
If the receiver has had normal, regular bowel movements, anilingus is generally hygienic.
But more on the poop of it all later.
Thats because while the vagina produces natural lubrication, the anus doesnt.
Anal penetration without adequate lubrication can cause the tissue in your anus to tear.
Thats because these tears create openings in the skin, potentially allowing infection-causing pathogens to enter.
When it comes to lube, you pretty much have three options: oil-based, silicone-based, and water-based.
Oil- and silicone-based lubes are thicker and longer lasting, making them great for anal play.
Water-based lube is perfectly serviceable tooyou might just find yourself having to reapply more often.
Lubes to try:
Repeat after me: Not all toys are anal-safe!
Toys to try:
At least, under most circumstances.
Yup, you’re able to get STIs via your butt.
Otherwise, you risk moving bacteria from your anus to yourvaginaor urethra.
So first, lets walk through what actually happens inside your body when you poop.
Food starts in your stomach, where it gets broken down.
Then it passes through your small intestine, where it gets digested even more.
Unfortunately, theres a bit of a catch here, which is important for expectation-setting.
That said, no one needs to panic.
But its definitely something that all parties should be aware of before you kick off.
For more information, you’ve got the option to check outthis articleon the topic.
But some people prefer to take the extra step of doing an enema, and thats cool too.
Again, you dont necessarily need an enema.
As we just established, the chances of you pooping on your partner mid-act are slim to none.
He recommends only doing them once every few months and following the instructions every time.
If your butt starts feeling irritated when you do an enema, thats a sign you should quit.
Other than that, you might concentrate on external anal hygiene.
This step is totally optional, of course, but its a good rule to keep in mind.
During anal
A big part of preparing for anal sex actually happens during sex itself.
Thats to give your body time to relax.
Your rectum is designed to keep poop in with help from a muscle called the anal sphincter.
This can make anal penetration a little challenging at first, Dr. Moritz says.
It takes a bit of time to relax [the anal sphincter], Dr. Frankhouse says.
This can help you get familiar with the sensation before any kind of penetration happens.
Anal play doesnt have to mean anal penetration, she says.
Instead you could stimulate circles around the anal opening with a finger, tongue, or pointed vibrator.
Numbing creams that use anesthetics like benzocaine are widely available.
That doesnt mean you should use them for anal, says Dr. Chinn.
Your nerve endings are sensitive for a reason.
They alert your brain topainso you might prevent yourself from getting seriously injured, Dr. Chinn says.
While numbing creams might make anal penetrationfeeleasier, they dont make it any easier physically.
Instead, just take things slowly and communicate with your partner.
Anal play can be a lot of fun, and you shouldnt have to numb yourself to enjoy it.
That allows more control over how deep the penetration goes and how slowly it happens.
As a bonus, theres also the chance to add someclitoral stimulation, if thats your thing.
This can offer a fuller feeling.
You or your partner can also provide some added clitoral stimulation in these positions.
Dont get me wrong, orgasms are obviously great.
This is just as true with anal sex.
Especially because when it comes to anal sex, orgasms arent exactly straightforward.
To explain why, we have to get into some interestingG-spotand P-spot territory.
The emphasis here is on some.
Theres actually a pretty big debate about the G-spot in the sex education and medical fields.
I hate to say Im not a big G-spot believer.
Then theres theP-spot, which is a cutesy name for the prostate gland.
So, to answer your question, can you orgasm from anal?
Orgasms are such an individual thing that its hard to say a definite yes or no to this one.
This advice still stands if your partner ejaculates inside you.
Even if poop could go farther up into your colon, semen is usually runny.
If you want to go to the bathroom to expel that, feel free, but its not necessary!
Whatever helps you feel most comfortable.
Though injuries are uncommon, its good to be aware.
The truth is that it’s possible for you to have an excellent time with anal play.
Or it could be the exact opposite of your thing, which is okay too.
