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And it happens for all kinds of reasons.
Maybe you or your partner are experiencing alower sex drivedue to stress, illness, medication, or aging.
Amrita Marino
Maybe youre worried about workor the state of the worldand your brain just doesnt have the bandwidth for desire.
No matter whats going on: Its okay!
Share new experiences with your partner outside of the bedroom.
Deepening your emotional intimacy by pursuing new experiences might kickstart your desire for one another.
Maintain nonsexual touch.
Take it slowlike,reallyslowin bed.
Dr. Goerlich recommends exploring each others bodies to identify your undiscovered turn-ons.
When was the last time you brushed your partners hair, for example?
How would it feel to spend time just touching and stroking their body, without expecting anything beyond that?
How would it feel to let them touch and strokeyouwithout expectation of more?
Introduce something surprising to your sex life.
But too much repetition and not enough variety can make sex lose its luster.
If thats the case for you and your partner, then its probably time to mix it up.
), oruse a vibrator together.
If either partner feels pressured or coerced into sex, something needs to change, Dr. Goerlich says.
If your partner expresses enthusiasm, bring your new erotic pursuit into your next sex session.
Masturbate and encourage your partner to masturbatesoloandtogether.
Mutual masturbation can be the perfect way to ease back into sex after a long drought.
Try asking your partner, Do you want to watch me touch myself?
or express your desire to watch them orgasm.
Schedule sex.
If sex happens, thats great, and if not, you still get the benefits of physical intimacy.
Work through your conflicts.
Ultimately, the best foreplay is feeling close to your partnerin the bedroom and outside of it.
