Other times, this insecurity may be a sign youre craving something thats missingperhaps more reassurance or quality time.
Still, its important to keep your romantic jealousy in check, she adds.
Were not saying you have to become some effortlessly chill partner who never deals with self-doubt.
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Be curious (not embarrassed) about your jealousy.
No onewantsto admit to being the jealous pop in.
Journaling is a great way to reflect becausewriting down how youre feelingcan help you distance yourself from jealous thoughts.
They laughed at their friends joke but not mine…maybe theyre not into me anymore.
Thats why its important to challenge your negative thoughts by focusing on what youactuallyknow.
For instance, lets say your partner isnt answering your texts on a Saturday night.
Or they already gave you a heads-up about being busy, so its not like theyre intentionally ignoring you.
And realistically: Whenyoureout having fun with your pals, are you glued to your phone?
(Probably not!)
Resist the urge to dig into your partners past relationships… …and focus on whats going well in your relationship, instead.
Or perhaps they consistently prioritize spending quality time together, even during their busiest weeks.
Another way to embrace the positives of your bond?
Create new memories together, Epstein suggests.
Stop relying solely on your partner for validationand start reclaiming your independence.
Thats why both Ly and Epstein emphasize the importance of having personal interests and hobbies outside of your relationship.
Be honest with your partner, but dont blame them.
Admitting that youre an insecure or jealous person can be toughembarrassing even.
But both therapists agree that honest andopen communicationis a must for preventing misunderstandings and keepingresentmentfrom building up.
One effective way to do this is by focusing on your own experiences and sticking with I statements.
Remember, sharing your emotions isnt about trying to control your partner.
Ideally, youll get the reassurance you oughta feel more secure and trusting, Epstein says.
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