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Rest assured, getting slick with it takes practice.
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And becoming fluent requires a lot more than memorizing common phrases youve heard insexy showsor movies, she says.
The good news is, learning to say naughty things with gusto isfun.
Ready to sound like a natural conversationalist in bed?
Heres how to find your personal dialect of dirty talk, according to the pros.
Boodram recommends listening to spicy audiobooks oraudio erotica, for example viaQuinnorDipsea.
Youre arming yourself with an arsenal of tools, Boodram says.
Youll also want toshare any sexual fantasiesthat you might reference (more on that below!
Firing off texts whenever and wherever also makes it easy to build your dirty repertoire with a partner.
That can sound like moaning, sighing, or just saying, That feels so good.
After all, the words are often less important than the energy youre giving off.
Enthusiasm is the name of the game, Engle says.
When your partner feels like youre happy to be there, its good sex.
And making some noise is one way to get that across.
Anything said with the express purpose of turning a partner on can count, evensexual praise.
Often, the sexiest dirty talk is a dialogue, and questions directly facilitate that.
In fact, soliciting feedback is a great way to get into a lively flow.
Eventually, you might graduate to something like, How does my [insert body part here] feel?
or What are you thinking about thats turning you on the most?
can encourage your partner to reveal things you might use to really get them going, Eros says.
Any version of do this now or bend over or get on the bed can feel super spicy.
So pretend like its a creative writing assignment in English class, and challenge yourself to get descriptive.
Another option is to stick with something more realistic rather than taking on whole new personas, Eros suggests.
In fact, thats an opportunity to bond and connect.
This way, theyll be in a less vulnerable position to receive your feedback.
A little bit of cringe or cliche isnt really something to worry about, after all.
This is not an Academy Awardwinning performance that youre trying to give, Engle says.
Youre just trying to give people boners.
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