Does anyone else feel an overwhelming sense of relief when someone cancels plans on you?
And theres nothing worse than Monday night plans.
I’m a homebody and spend most of my time with my husband.
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Or Ill need to cancel plans to get a story done.
Or I won’tneedto cancel plans, but I’ll do it anyway.
Truth be told, thats the exact reason I need to makemoreplans.
The planner of someone with an actual life.
So, I pitched this story to revamp my social life.
Hello, weekday social life!
This feels very true.
The planner of someone with an actual life.
The New York Timesrecently reported that we are living in the golden age of bailing.
Of course, technology plays a big role in this.
There are multiple downsides to this, both of which play into my make-and-keep-plans challenge.
We have become used to engaging with people from a distance," says Markman.
“That can actually create more anxiety in everyone when real face-to-face interactions come up.
We are not as well-practiced in being live with other people anymore.
Problem 1: Texting makes actually seeing people IRL scarier.
It also makes flaking on them easier.
Instead, I found myself with an 8:30 dinner reservation.
But you know what?
I found myself making after-work planseverything from innocent lets catch up happy hours to workout classes.
TBH, I desperately wanted to cancel about 99 percent but didntfor the sake of journalism.
Lesson learned: Ima morning exercise personwho cant fall asleep if I sweat it out in the evening hours.
But it wasnt just after-work plans wearing me down.
Like so many others in the workforce, I take a lot of meetings.
I replied with Sounds like a plan!
knowing full well that I had three episodes ofHandmaids Taleto binge watch.
Plus, I loved the company.
Don’t tell my cat, but humans are better conversationalists.
and dancing (ummm).
But I didnt cancel and had (surprise!)
the best time with my girlfriends.
Is this what celebrities feel like?
I realized that I completely valued my chill-out time, but loved the socializationand its all about balance.
Markman suggested that moving forward I should keep a calendar to get a sense of my social commitments.
Anyone wanna go out Friday night?
