BeingBlack in Americarequires an unbelievable amount of tenacity and, well, work.
Many of us have been taught that showing up and overworking are the best ways to communicate our value.
We might intuit that the onus is on us to prove our goodness, our humannessour innocence.
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Then we learn that someone might kill us anyway.
Behavioral Health & Consulting, tells SELF.
Were trying to process a lot of information in a relatively short period of time, she says.
There is immense power in believing that because Black lives matter, your individual needs are important.
This fight is long, friend.
Youre allowed to recharge for the road ahead.
Remind yourself that simply existing in a Black body is part of the work.
Every additional day you do it is an accomplishment.
Chronic stress from racismhas been proven to have deleterious effects on Black peoples health.
But let this fact serve as a reminder that you have every right to incorporate rest andstress-reliefinto your life.
If youre going to take a mental health day, create a plan.
Ask yourself what usually leaves you feeling refreshed and what leaves you feeling like a zombie.
(Pro tip: This isnt a time for tackling shoulds and tedious items on your to-do list.
A plan to turn off your phone and do nothing is a valid one.)
If you have a therapist, ask them for validation.
This is especially important if you have thoughts or feelings that youre having trouble fully understanding, Erinna says.
Reach out to someone you trust who will support your need for a break.
Know that joy and rest are important for sustained action.
Theres a reason why Audre Lordes sentiment thatself-care is inherently politicalhas become well-worn territory in this fight.
Its hard to continually fight for justice if youre constantly emotionally and physically depleted.
Remember that normalized trauma is still trauma.
Can I speak openly for a second?
Just because this happens all too frequently doesnt mean its not traumatic.
Youre allowed to take some time togrieveand try toheal from your trauma.
If you cant take time for yourself, set some boundaries.
The impulse to look directly at trauma and not avert your eyes is brave and useful.
Make no mistake: Raising awareness is an important component of the fight against police terror.
But you will burn yourself out if you dont find moments to rest and recover.
Self-care isnt selfish, Erinna says.
