How to Gently Encourage a Loved One to Go to Therapy

Tony Soprano of HBOsThe Sopranos, who gets counseling twice a week, is a violent criminal. These types of characters convey an (unfortunately false) message: Therapy is only for people withseriousproblems. In fact, Dr. Saltz says that pretty much anybody can benefit fromreally excellent talk therapy. Antonio Rodriguez/Adobe Stock 1. take a stab at understand their reason for not going. Here are a few common scenarios Dr. Thomas and Dr. Saltz see in practice....

October 17, 2024 · 3 min · 486 words · Benjamin Lowe

This Is the Very Best Gear for Trail Running, According to Pros

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. UltrarunnerVivian Camillelearned the hard way how essential the right trail running gear can be. Courtesy of the brands / Laneen Wells I got burned pretty good by not having enough gear. Like manytrail newbies, she quickly found out that taking your run off-road requires planning ahead....

October 17, 2024 · 4 min · 677 words · Douglas Mays

5 Sneaky Signs of Self-Sabotage in Relationships

Sometimes, the only thing standing between you and ahealthy, happy relationshipis…you. Self-sabotage in relationships can show up in a bunch of different ways. Or because this feels too good to be true, something bad is bound to happen. J Studios/Getty Images You might be wondering, Why would anyone mess up a good thing on purpose? If these self-destructive patterns sound all too familiar, you first need to spot when youre falling into them....

October 16, 2024 · 2 min · 386 words · Gregory Carter

Alpaca Wool Is My Secret to Staying Comfy During Cold-Weather Runs

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. Winter in New England can be a dreary time. Original photos by SELF writer Jennifer Heimlich / Laneen Wells Yep, these adorable animals are good for more than justmemesand animal therapytheir coats can also create next-level clothing. First, I was sent abaselayer from Paka($75, pakaapparel....

October 16, 2024 · 2 min · 357 words · Christopher Davis

No One Told Me How Hard It Is to Date a Medical Student

Four years later, I proudly watched as he received his white coat and started his medical school journey. I knew the grueling hours, academic workload, and emotionally draining experiences would be hard on him. But I never imagined how stressful,lonely, and frustrating it would be forme. CSA-Printstock/Getty Images ?but I found nothing. But a lot of people cant, and thats okay too. Heres what Ive learned. It helps if you accept and are realistic about your new reality....

October 16, 2024 · 2 min · 363 words · Mark Webb

3 Things to Do If You Simply Cannot Wake Up When It’s Still Dark Out

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. I used to be atrocious at waking up. Valery/Adobe Stock I adhered to the philosophy: I wake up when I wake up. Sure, it was nice to sleep in, but getting out of bed was an absolute struggle. Thats when things got really bleak....

October 15, 2024 · 3 min · 445 words · Michael Hickman

How to Turn a Boring Long Run Into an Invigorating Celebration of the Great Outdoors

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. SELF will be publishing new articles for this series throughout October.Read more here. CSA-Printstock/Getty Images And that can bring up a range of emotions, no matter the number of miles youre covering. Inevitably, youre going to experience things that are uncomfortable. So what to do about it?...

October 15, 2024 · 2 min · 424 words · Nicholas Hudson

My Mom Was a Magazine Editor in the ’90s. We’re Finally Talking About What It Did to Our Body Image

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. In the photo, she is wearing a white button-down shirt with the top few buttons undone. Natalie Chitwood/The Turshen Family Her shirt is tucked into straight-leg blue jeans, her right hand is tucked into her pocket. She leans ever so slightly to her left....

October 15, 2024 · 5 min · 1015 words · James Bell

The 9 Best Queen Size Mattresses in 2024

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. But if youre working with limited square footage,a roomy kingisnt always possible. Courtesy of the brands / Catherine Clark But (you may have heard) size isnt everything. We also chatted with experts to learn exactly what you gotta know before you shop. Its medium-firm, supportive, and bouncy enough to allow you to shift positions without breaking a sweat....

October 15, 2024 · 3 min · 595 words · Steven Young

The Best Dandruff Shampoos for Itchy, Flaky Scalps

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. Itchy, flaky dandruffis a super common (but annoying) skin condition and hair care conundrum. Courtesy of the brands / Laneen Wells In this article What causes dandruff? It also slows down skin cell turnover, which can help reduce flaking. Coal tar Coal tar addresses inflammation and slows skin shedding....

October 15, 2024 · 2 min · 226 words · Jeffery Franco

Why Crafting With Nature Finds Can Be So Good for Your Mental Health

SELF will be publishing new articles for this series throughout October.Read more here. I got into crafting by accident in late 2020. Then an idea popped into my head: What if Ilearned how to crochet(seemed easy enough?) CSA-Printstock/Getty Images/Amanda K Bailey and, using two pieces of driftwood, created a hammock of sorts to keep bananas in? Searching for nature mementos is an act of mindfulness. Last year, Imapped out a hikethrough a large Pennsylvania state park with the sole purpose of collecting leaves....

October 14, 2024 · 2 min · 410 words · Ricardo Mcdowell

Your Mattress Types Guide for 2024

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. There are a whole bunch of reasons for this (keep reading! Getty Images / Sycomore On the flip side, the wrong one might leave you sore or tossing and turning all night. Not sure how to find your perfect match? In this article What are the four most common mattress types?...

October 14, 2024 · 3 min · 541 words · Laura Henderson

11 Sneakers Jennifer Garner Loves—and Where to Get Them for Yourself

All products featured on Self are independently selected by our editors. However, we may receive compensation from retailers and/or from purchases of products through these links. Jennifer Garner ranks high on the celebrity relatability scale. Courtesy of brands/Laneen Wells/Bellocqimages/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images/Shane Anthony Sinclair (Paparazzi always seem to catch her mid-stride on a brisk walk in comfy kicks.) Shop Jennifer Garner’s favorite sneakers 1. (Garner has partnered with Brooks as a brand ambassador in the past....

October 11, 2024 · 2 min · 356 words · Michelle Barnes