SELF's 10 Most Inspiring Women

Since then, fame has not derailed her dedication to the orphanage’s 100-plus children. Simpson also supportsOperation Smile, which helps repair the cleft palates of children in need. There’s nothing in the world that feels better," says Simpson. “It helps keep my life in perspective.” And last May, Crow became a mom, adopting a baby boy, Wyatt Steven. It has nothing to do with size. You have to stay present every second....

August 19, 2007 · 1 min · 133 words · Thomas Gilbert

Self-confidence tips from successful women

As teens, we loved or loathed the homecoming queen and yearned to emulate or eviscerate her. In my case, I was her. Except, of course, I wasn’t. And so I spent my adolescence doing what we so breezily refer to as suffering for beauty. I suffered, and also I felt afraid. Afraid of looking fat, of being seen without my hair just so. My old tiara lies inside, a glimmering artifact of the dream girl I used to be....

August 19, 2007 · 4 min · 781 words · Samantha Mcguire

Can being shallow lead to contentment?

I have always swum in the shallow end, metaphorically speaking. I prefer comedy to drama. Italian meals to French. A fiery relationship built on lust to the tedium of an intellectual connection that turns romantic. I love sex, food, exhausting exercise, dreamy sleep, recreational drugs. My shallowness might explain why I was never in danger of addiction. I dabbled to feel good, not to fill the hollowness of my soul....

August 6, 2007 · 5 min · 865 words · Nicolas Nichols

An unforgettable regret

They came back with the hot flashesthose old leftover longings for a child of my own. I have been surprised by them. It is not a constant, this longing. I don’t care. I thought I was done with this. A decade ago, at age 45, my biological clock struck midnight. By that point, I had done it all, tried everything to get pregnant. Granted, I’d gotten a late start. After years of ambivalence about motherhood, I finally began trying to have a baby in my late 30s....

July 22, 2007 · 3 min · 480 words · Melanie Espinoza

Embracing my body: Finding confidence at any size

After all, I reasoned, models were merely skinny girls with stylists. I perpetually fell short of that goal, though, and I blamed myself. Then I met Cindy Crawford for a standard celebrity interview. She laughed, frowned, acted serious, skeptical. No matter what her expression, she was unspeakably gorgeous. I wasn’t a failure, I realized. I was an idealist. Meeting Cindy Crawford made a realist of me. I scratched “attain model-gorgeous” off my to do list....

July 22, 2007 · 5 min · 873 words · George Mccarthy

Faster-Than-Ever Flat Abs: No Equipment Needed

The planPerform one or two sets of the indicated reps three to five times a week. Combine them with calorie-burning cardio and we promise you’ll never have to suck it in again! Technique tipAbdominal exercises shouldn’t be a pain in the neck (literally). Bend forward and place hands on floor near feet. With hands planted, bend left knee as you slide right leg across body (as shown). Bend left knee and pull left leg into chest as you lift hips toward ceiling (as shown)....

July 22, 2007 · 1 min · 213 words · Joseph Stewart

How pets can enhance your life

I am an animal lover. I don’t mean I enjoy animals or find them cute. What I mean is that animalsespecially mammalsenchant me. I feel as strong a connection to them as I do to members of my own species. My husband, on the other hand, believes an animal’s worth is roughly equivalent to its edibility. If you could carve, slice or boil the beast, then it is generally welcome in our home....

July 22, 2007 · 10 min · 1981 words · Denise Stevens

Losing a friend but keeping memories alive

I couldn’t wait to tell Elizabeth. I’d just left a big-honcho media party. Half the point of going to these things was the who-did-you-see, who-said-what postmortem with my pal. And tonight, that guy had greeted me with a flirty kiss on the lips! Elizabeth wouldn’t be home. She’d been dead since April. Elizabeth was neither a smoker nor a drinker, two of the big risk factors for this particular cancer....

July 22, 2007 · 4 min · 653 words · Jamie Jordan

Water exercises: Dive in!

Lower body; jog back to start. Repeat, adding one lift each time until finishing 10 lifts total. Technique tipDon’t rely on buoyancy to propel you. Make your upper body do the bulk of the work. Egg beater Works:Works arms, abs, legs Float upright in deep end. Continue for one minute. Rest 30 seconds; repeat up to three times. Technique tipWater polo players rely on this maneuver to stay afloat. The faster you move your feet, the higher you’ll drive yourself out of the water....

July 22, 2007 · 2 min · 339 words · Eric Salazar

An ambivalent vegetarian

Sometimes I’m lucky and what I want is meatless. I have been a vegetarian, semivegetarian and old-fashioned carnivore. Right now, I eat everythingbut with a pervasive sense of unease. But it hasn’t. I’m more torn than ever. In the beginning,I must confess that I was motivated more by a concern for calories than animals. When I went to college, everyone assured me that I would inevitably gain 15 pounds. I lost 10 pounds and became addicted to the attention (“You’re so skinny....

June 25, 2007 · 3 min · 574 words · Lisa Walsh

Confessions of a cheapskate

Rationally, I know my finances are solid. Conveniently, I’m not a big consumer. In fact, I open my wallet as few times a day as possible. I wait for sales. I rely on invitations to friends' country clubs and weekend homes for getaways. But even I questioned my tightfistedness when my younger daughter was diagnosed with attention deficit disorder. Her teacher called me in to school to discuss what it meant....

June 25, 2007 · 3 min · 591 words · Andrew Bell

Conquer clutter!

What do you see when you look around your home? I see a landscape of failure. There are piles of paper. Piled on the piles are more piles. Books and DVDs have escaped the shelves and are now in, well, piles. I tell myself I will sort through them one day. Unfortunately, I have not had that extra day in years. I have twin 4-year-old boys whose toys have overflowed into every room in the house....

June 25, 2007 · 6 min · 1229 words · Joy Kim

Face value

When I first met my husband, I thought his beard was sexy. That my husband is neither of these thingshe is a chemist and a Buddhistonly added to the appeal. I loved my husband’s beard, the way it felt both soft and sharp against my skin. I came to know his face by the particularities of this beard. I was attracted to him in part because of this beard. It would not be entirely wrong to say I married my husband based on his beard....

June 25, 2007 · 5 min · 1055 words · James Anderson