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If you wonderwhat causes people to break up, you might say money, lying, or cheating.
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And that is true.
For nearly three decades, Ive had a front-row seat to thousands of relationships.
Today, heres what I know for sure: Small stuff is a big deal.
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Here are the five most overlookedrelationship killersand solutions to those bad habits.
Couples who have been together for many years sometimes believe that they know everything about their partner.
Unlike when they were first dating, they stop asking each other questions and learning more about each other.
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Such loss of curiosity can be lethal.
I call this the silent dining syndrome.
Couples go out together to a restaurant but then dont talk.
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Ask each other questions, just like when you were first dating!
A side benefit of getting to know one another again is an increase in passion and excitement.
A lot of couples sweeplittle annoyances and pet peevesunder the rug.
Over time, though, these small everyday irritations can add up and put a relationship on life support.
Its actually the slight nuisances that accumulate if not dealt with.
Later on, they become big problems in relationships.
Solution: Do or say something frequently to show your partner that he or she is valued and noticed.
Many couples only talk about whats goingwrong in their relationship.
They end up focusing on the negative aspects of their relationship.
Focusing on whats working with the two of you motivates you both to move forward in that relationship.
Its vital to understand that everyday bad habits can destroy relationships over time.
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