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Mourning a relationship looks different for everyone, but there is some common grief ground.
Instead, some people may experience certain stages out of order, or even skip them altogether.
(Its also a very different case if youre the breakup-er.
Poorly handling a breakup isnt a character flawdespite what it may seem (or feel) like.
Science tells us freaking out after separating from a significant other is an ubiquitous experience programmed into our brains.
Seemingly unbearable emotions are a normal, hardwired response to romantic grief.
And heres the part youve been waiting for: Yes, you will get through it.
You might not believe its really happening.
(More on that shortly).
You may feel angeror rage.
But that doesnt mean you should bottle up these feelings and hope they go away.
You might feel like youll do just about anything to get your ex back.
This phase is also known as the protest phase, according to Dr. Fisher.
You may feel so, so sador empty inside.
Andmaybe this playlist(an oldie but a goodie) will help too.
Treat yourself with compassion, just as you would your grieving best friend, Dr. Dardashti adds.
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Eventually, youll feel at peace and ready to move forward solo.
To encourage the process of acceptance, Dr. Fisher recommends putting the lessons youve learned into words.
Whats the hardest stage of a breakup?
That can be really hardthe fear of being alone.
Speaking of loneliness, remembering that youre definitely not alone can be a source of comfort as you heal.
Or maybe youve gotten through a tough breakup before.
Remember, if you got through it before, you’re free to do it again.
Most importantly, venture to bear in mind that the stages of a breakup wont last forever.
And when the urge to initiate contact takes hold, try texting a friend instead.
What they did agree on: Time does, indeed, help heal a broken heart.
And seeing your separation as an opportunity for growth can help lay the groundwork for a happier future.
Its important to realize that great relationships seldom fail, Dr. Lewandowski says.
Breakups create space in your life to find the truly great relationship you deserve.
Plus, where would Adele be without them?
