But, somedoctorsnote, that’s exactly what you should be pondering.

Altshuler says, “c’mon, talk to us.

Most doctors want you to take an active role in your care.”

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What can you do to make your appointment a sweet little communication fest?

Because she is one.

“This sounds odd, but patients seem to forget that doctors are people,” he says.

“We want to connect with you on a personal level.

That makes it easier on both sides, and establishes some solid communication for subsequent visits.

Tell the truth.

So, maybe you have some lifestyle habits that could be an eensy bit better.

You’ve gotten a littleboozy,smoky,sexy, orcupcakeylately.

Or you sorta forgot to take your medicationfor the last three months.

In those cases, you might be tempted to leave out the details.

But what you want to talk about the least is exactly what the doctor needs to know the most.

“They worry about being judged, or making a doctor angry.”

She adds, “The result is that you don’t get the care you really need.

you’re gonna wanna take ownership of your health.

And that starts with having the confidence to be honest.”

Make a cheat sheet.

If your list is lengthy, you might check with your doctor’s office about requesting a longer appointment.

Bring a medical wingman.

Another tactic for better communication is to bring someone to take notes.

“That leads to you and the doctor working together.

Healthcare should be a team sport.”

Don’t be afraid to push back.

If you’re feeling dubious about a diagnosis or a treatment option, say something.

“Recognize that you know your body better than the doctor does.

So, start that conversation.”

The emphasis here is on communication instead of debate.

Schwartz suggests that patients ask questionsand to keep on asking them until doc and patient are aligned.

Schwartz says, “Don’t accept anything less than respect and kindness.

Doctors don’t like “white coat silence” any more than patients do.

Both sides want more effective care, better treatment, and kickass recovery.

But like any relationship, it takes some communication and effort on both sides to make that happen.

So do your part to be an empowered patient and you’ll gain respecteven in a crumpled paper gown.