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Disagreements and other tense moments (ahem,biting your partners head off) are normal in healthy relationships.
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But what kinds of issues warrant a visit to acouples therapist?
Its a safe and private place to explore what is and isnt working, Wentzler says.
Here, seven couples therapists share a common issue they see in their sessions.
The trust is gone.
Its probably no surprise thatlosing trustis a biggie.
This can also help them determine if moving forward together is truly worth it.
Infidelity doesnt have to end in abreakup, she adds.
But it usually creates a distrust or lack of confidence that should be addressed.
A big life change, like getting married or starting a family, is on the horizon.
Again, therapy isnt just for troubled relationships on the brink of collapse.
Professional guidance can make these important but also intimidating milestones feel a little more manageable, Bradden adds.
The arguments arent exactly productive.
Its normal to fight in relationships, Wentzler says.
When it comes to conflict, people really struggle with how toresolve it constructively, Wentzler adds.
Instead ofsnapping over little thingsor yelling extreme statements like, Youneverlisten to me!
That way, problems are more likely to be solvedand feelings are less likely to be hurt.
One or both partners feel unappreciated.
But getting into the habit of neglecting these sweet moments can cause emotional distance.
Disagreements about money are causing tension.
While this might sound like a job for a financial advisor, a couples therapist can help too.
Theres a lack of boundaries with overbearing in-laws (or other family members).
Setting boundaries with familycan bereallydifficultbut sometimes necessary to protect a relationship.
Maybe the in-laws who offered to help take care of a couples newbornstillshow up unannounced years later.
Ultimately, the choice is yours, but theres no need to feel ashamed if youre considering this route.
Fighting for a relationship thats worth it takes a lot of effortand sometimes a professional in your corner.
