If youhavebeen there, you probably know that it can be a distressing, isolating, utterly confusing development.
I could go for months without sex.
She recently started seeing a new doctor, and together theyre figuring out a treatment plan.)
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And my husband felt neglected and like he was not good enough, she adds.
Barb found that honesty and emotional intimacy have helped heal the rift between her and her husband.
We manage to express our desire and love for each other in other ways.
I want my body to want sex as much as my mind and my heart.
For Veronica F., 21, the noticeable decrease in her desire for sex came as a total shock.
She had just turned 18 and was in a loving, previously sexually fulfilling relationship.
I want my body to want sex as much as my mind and my heart, she says.
Veronica also noticed that her libido dip has made her feel more insecure in her relationship.
Im constantly asking for reassurance.
One thing that has helped?
The excitement of being somewhere new gets me going, she says.
The whole experience helped me understand my experiences were normal.
I had a sense that I was broken because I didnt desire sex as much as my husband.
Sexual satisfaction only comes from penetration.
Women who like sex are sluts.Masturbationis a sin.Things like that.
Pam also realized that a lack of communication between her and her husband stifled her libido even more.
So about five years ago Pam and her husband started seeing asex therapist.
It was like I was numb from my brain and all through my body.
Mentally and physically, I just didn’t have the desire, Brandi explains.
It was like I was numb from my brain and all through my body.
Brandi saw an ob/gyn who diagnosed her withhypoactive sexual desire disorder(HSDD).
Its thought to be resulting from animbalance of neurotransmittersthat help to regulate sexual arousal.
Eventually, because my husband is so loving, my ‘switch’ turns on."
There has been a lot of tension in the household when it comes to sex.
That lack of interest in sex makes Pat feel inadequate outside her marriage too.
Its contributed todepressionandanxietyand made her feel isolated.
Sex was something we didn’t speak of, Pat says.
The environment [left] a mark on me.
Pat went to atherapistfor a while and got some helpful information about low sex drive from her ob/gyn.
Today, Pat feels more apathetic about her lack of libido than ashamed about it.
Right now, she says its just not a priority for her.
It was hard to achieve an orgasmexhausting, really.
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Having little to no interest in sex with her husband didnt help.
It was frustrating, she tells SELF.
Kats sex drive andmental healthwere further dampened by an unhealthy relationship dynamic.
I found myself in situations with him where I felt I was being pressured into sex, she says.
I just felt defective.
The ecstasy and intimacy [werent] worth the pain and trauma, Nora tells SELF.
Even though her partner was very supportive, Noras inability to have sex took a toll on her self-image.
Inside, I just felt defective.
Over time, Nora and her partner discovered that she could still become aroused by and enjoyoral sex.
It became their primary means of intimacy for a while.
Low libido for me didnt mean I couldnt get turned on and want it, she explains.
My partner mostly had to initiate it, though, because I didnt have the urge.
Im glad he did.
That includes sex, she says: We can enjoy and have our sex life and intimacy back again.
