The pleasure of oral sex is, for many people, one of the joys of being human.
Might I remind you that theclitoristhe rosebud-like bump at the top of the vulvais extraordinarily sensitive?
Of course these are the tips, tricks, and preferences of 15 specific people.
Morgan Johnson
Everyone involved deserves to have exactly the experience they want.
May this inspire you and your partners to have amazing oral sex!
Trusting your partner is essential.
You cant have good oral sex without trust, says Catherine*, 24, from Chicago.
Letting go of inhibitions and focusing on what feels good to you might bring you amazing pleasure.
Lead up to oral sex with foreplay.
Warming up before any kind of sexual activity is a must for many people.
This is definitely true, but oral sex isnt just foreplay itselfit canrequireforeplay as well.
When it’s led up toinstead of jumped intoit really changes the whole experience for me, she says.
Listen to your partners unique, individual body.
Not every person enjoys oral sex the same way.
Remember, the clitoral online grid is complex.
Some only want external clitoral stimulation, while others want a combination of external and internal stimulation.
(And some, of course, may want no external clitoral stimulation at all.)
There is no limit to the variations in what we enjoy.
This is why figuring out what works forthe specific person youre withis so important.
Take some time to figure out the direction, speed and location that make the legs twitch.
If you hit my 6 o’clock I will literally melt into a puddle of orgasms.
Take me on a journey.
I like it when there is buildup and Im left begging for it.
He went down on me several times and that was the only goal of the sessions!
I didnt feel the pressure to get off quickly, which also made me feel comfortable.
(This isnt true for all clits, but it is something to keep in mind.)
Try kissing and nibbling the thighs.
Try massaging the mons pubic with your palm.
Run your tongue lightly along the labia.
Lick all around the area before putting your tongue on clitoris.
Right before you move in for full-on oral, blow on the clitorisit will light up nerve endings galore!
Come at my clit like youre mad at it, and Ill pull away and wont get off.
This might sound obvious, but its all about licking and suckling.
Kayla recommends that you coax it with gentle licks and sucks, and let the first orgasm build slowly.
Krista, 49, from Ontario, agrees that clitoral licking and suckling is a must.
Britt, 27, from Chicago, is even more emphatic.
There is no way Im getting off without special attention to my clitoris, she says.
And if something is getting a positive response, there is nothing wrong with sticking to it.
Its just this one motion, really slowly and consistently, until I come.
Its kind of magical, to be honest.
Focus on your partners whole body and energy.
Laura says this attention to detail is what led to one of her best oral sex experiences.
As I began to react, his pace quickened, she recalls.
He allowed me to set the pace, rather than trying to force it.
And when I finally did orgasm, it was a full-body experience.
While verbalizing enjoyment and consent is imperative, paying attention to a partners body language is key, too.
Even though youre the one giving, the receiver is the one in control.
Get permission before biting.
Were talking about a very sensitive part of the body.
For some people, even a tongue can be overly stimulating.
The clitoris is so sensitive that the lightest of touches goes a long way.
But in short: Without a verbalized invitation, keep your teeth to yourself when it comes to oral.
Once you get comfortable with each others bodies, consider introducing some new moves.
Variety, after all, is the spice of life.
I like when a dude keeps it fresh, says Dana*, 28, from Philadelphia.
Change it up with different movements, try toys, put things inside me.
Obviously ask if Im okay with it, but I think the best orgasms come with variety.
There was all this weight pulling my body downwards, combined with vibration, she recalls.
I came so hard I almost fainted.
While the main focus should be the clitoris, some people with clits enjoy internal stimulation in tandem.
Variety comes in many different forms.
I like it when he looks up at me with confidence knowing he is making me squirt.
Keep communicating with each other and find out what feels best.
(Check outthis guidefor some specific ideas.)
I coated his face, his beard, and the pillow under his head, she says.
When I heard a muffled, Dont move!
I felt much better about it.
you might also try lying on your side, your partner astride for a sideways 69 position.
Or, you know, just lie there and enjoy the view.
Our cultural scripts about oral pleasure are often focused on the penis.
Enthusiasm is so vital for me, says Britt.
I need someone to let me know they want to be at this party and willingly RSVP’d.
The ideal oral sex giver?
Sounds good to me.
