Friend breakups, on the other hand?
Feeling your feelingsespecially the negative ones.
I honestly gave myself permission just to be a little petty and even hate them.
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Which isnt to say I still harbor thosenegative feelingsnow!
Alvin P.
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Sofia D.
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Leaning into all the self-care.
Carmen T.
4.
Listening to breakup playlists.
There are some good friend breakup anthems if you go looking for them.
(Pretty much all of LordesMelodrama, specifically, if youre looking for ideas.)
Phoebe G.
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Leaning into other supportive relationships.
Most of what I did was focus on other relationships.
Ruthie D.
6.
Focusing on other things that fulfill you.
At least not any as close as the one that ended.
Other fulfilling relationships eventually followed, but not for a while.
I had to be there for myself first.
Protecting your social media peace.
There was crying,therapy, and muting on Instagram to set a soft boundary.
Very much like a romantic breakup.
Emily G.
8.
I got through it the way I got through my post-graduation depression: lots of activities and distractions.
Ruthie D.
9.
Paying attention to their currentnot pastbehavior.
My friend breakup happened with someone I met at work.
It hit me that I dont want to be friends with someone who would choose to be that cold.
Emily G.
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Like, almost exact opposites.
It reminded me that we were never the most compatible in the first place.
Phoebe G.
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Treating it like a romantic breakup.
I was also honest with people.
How am I doing?
Bad because a really important friendship just ended, thanks for asking.
If they didnt get it, so what?
Amanda K.
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Letting go of closure as a concept.
That ultimately made it easier to feel my feelings without trying to rationalize or math them out.
Alvin P.
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Reminding yourself you deserved better.
I had a really hard time moving past a friendship that ended with zero closure.
I thought things were good between us and then…poof.
This person never talked to me again.
I followed up a few times and got really in my head about what I did wrong.
Austin R.
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