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Sometimes, just one slip-up at work can make me second-guess my entire career.Am I even qualified?
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Why was I hired in the first place?
Any minute now my colleagues will realize I dont belong.
In fact,researchshows that highly accomplished people tend to question their competency the most.
You dont have to be stuck with these insecurities forever, though.
Fight your doubts with facts.
Not feeling good enough, smart enough, or experienced enough are just that: Feelings.
We tend to magnify the negatives and overlook our successes, Dr. Rubenstein explains.
Get a reality check from a trusted coworker or friend.
Instead, confide in someone youve worked well with and trust on a personal level, she says.
You could say something like, This past week has been so overwhelming.
Have you felt that way too?
And if your coworker agrees (Oh my God, I thought I was the only one!
), their similar experience might reassure you that youre not the only one struggling.
Remember who youre comparing yourself to.
Chances are, youre not measuring yourself against a new intern whos still learning the ropes.
Strive to be great enoughnot perfect.
Most of us dont want to be just okay at our jobs: We want to bethebest.
The reasonperfectionist standards are so problematicis that theyre usually unrealistic, she explains.
Or sharing ideas in a team meeting, even if theyre not completely refined.
Make an effort to be nice to yourself.
If you deal with imposter syndrome regularly, youre probably used to being your own worst critic.
So why not give a shot to break this pattern bypracticing a little self-compassioninstead?
When you make a mistake, its tempting to talk to yourself like a bully, Dr. Rubenstein says.
But you better speak to yourself with kindnessnot so much through toxic positivity, but by accepting yourself.
Or simply acknowledge how tough things have been at your job.
(This move, Dr. Rubenstein says, can simulate a comforting, reassuring hug.)
Embrace an I dont know, but I can find out mindset.
Sorry, but you cant know how to do everythingno matter how smart or capable you are.
Dont know how to tackle an upcoming project that your scary boss is overseeing?
Not confident about learning how to [insert another scary skill you have no experience with]?
Thats alright, you’re able to always ask your more seasoned work buddy for a little guidance.
This approach allows people to recognize they can be competent without knowingeverything, Dr. Orbe-Austin says.
Its about embracing the ability to cope with failure, learn from it, and grow.
And ultimately, thats what success is all about: Moving forward despite the inevitable setbacks.
Make time for nonwork activities that reinforce your worth.
Let us remind you: Your career does not define you!
Schedule regularget-togethers with friendswho appreciate how funny, cool, and thoughtful you are.
If running makes you feel strong and capable, prioritize hitting the pavement or trail.
Or finda new hobbythat fulfills you.
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